Repeated Cycle, I Am Losing Myself.

[Born to Run]

You deserve so much better than this. Please don't let yourself be manipulated. Get out while you still have your sanity. You have to take care of yourself, as this is an abusive situation. Good luck & Take care.

 

[chicken sammich]

He has called and texted me more guilt ridden messages and then said he was coming over. I told him I would call the police if he did. He's drunk and huge and very powerful and I will not have him at my door without an armed officer.

At what point can I tell him he is harassing me and bullying me and all of his messages and phone calls can be shared with authorities? I am getting very nervous.

 

[ghotiff]

Can you go somewhere else where he won't think to find you (eg movies) and block his number from your phone?

 

[Sighs]

If he is drunk there is no point trying to reason with him. I agree with @ghotiff - get yourself somewhere safe and do not respond to him. If you are concerned about his wellbeing call an ambulance to his location if known.

 

[chicken sammich]

He continues to call and text. I do not know where he is. I am home, and my roommate is as well. There is a lock on the front gate and we will call the cops should he pull into the driveway or come to the house. I wrote him an email short but very clear that this relationship is ending and for him to get help.

 

[WildMermaid]

@chicken sammich sending you encouragement a strength dear. :hug:

 

[chicken sammich]

Thank you very much. I do care for this man and he stole my heart. I wanted so much for us to be together. Please say a little prayer for him as well, just pray for KP. Thank you.

 

[Friday]

If he starts the "I'm going to kill myself" emotional blackmail ploy... The very easy answer is don't text back (or text: where are you, I'll meet you) if you don't know... And call 911. You can send them the text as proof, and police will pick him up and take him to the ER. With the text as proof that's a 72hr hold by law in most states, regardless if he's just being a spider in a web & denies it left & right.

Let the police handle it.

There are many people I will drop everything for & chill with them in a dark place. Been there, done that. Appreciate the hell out of the people who have been there for me. However... The moment anyone uses an immediate threat to life to manipulate me? They get the police. Period. I don't play.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Thinking of you @chicken sammich

 

[chicken sammich]

I agree with you Friday. He's throwing every trick in the book at me to get me to engage. Not the suicide one at this time. I hope he doesn't. He has tried before we met. I realize more and more that I have no business being involved with him. He is vulnerable and still needs a lot of therapy, but I cannot make him do that. I care for him and want to see him on the bright side of the street, but staying in this relationship is not going to change the pattern that has now become a very toxic cycle. I must remove myself from it. xoxo Thank you so much for being here for me. You people rock.

 

[chicken sammich]

I did not receive any more messages through the night. Is he alive? I do not know, and I am saying a prayer for him again today. Thank you all.

 

[chicken sammich]

Hi. I received a message today that just said "why are you doing this"
I replied to him and said I wrote it in the email that I sent twice.
Losing respect for this man now, but staying calm. I will report him if he keeps harassing me. I also have a few key items that I need to retrieve. They were listed in that email. I will get the po involved if he does not return them. I will ask him tomorrow to drop them off somewhere. Or have an escort to his place if he is going to try to hold it hostage. Thoughts? I've been all over my mind today, I am sad. I probably should cry. I will when I get my shit back. Then I can let go completely.