Reported My Therapist

[ms spock]

Congrats @City Slicker. That is very brave.

 

[City Slicker]

Thank you Ms Spock. I am very sorry to hear about your friend's sister. Words sometimes fail when I hear about things like that.

 

[ms spock]

I had a series of really bad psychologists who got into relationships with me and moved in with me, the first one got hold of me when I was 15. I think you are tremendously brave.

 

[City Slicker]

Ms. Spock, I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. I was a similar age when this happened to me. I know how damaging it is. Thank you for your words - you are also brave to be able to share and to reach out to let others know it has happened to you too. Peace and healing to you Ms. Spock.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I realize I am late to this thread, but I think you are incredibly brave and courageous and you seem to be coping with this all to well.

In my opinion you are innocent and the shame belongs with your abuser not on you.

 

[City Slicker]

Thank you Gizmo. I appreciate your words.

The investigation is in full swing. We are waiting on her response. I am working on having her response not matter now.

I think the important thing was being able to speak about it, and to report her and to let her know that I had enough value in myself to take steps to show that what she did was wrong. Whether I can prove it in the courts almost doesn't matter anymore - she knows what she did and I believe that the investigators, if they are good at what they do, know the truth when they hear it.

When the investigators told me how much goes into the process I was worried about the expense to the taxpayers since she would probably deny it all and I felt badly about the cost (no cost to me so far) but isn't that classic lol! They told me not to worry about that - that's what they were there for and that was their job. And I believed them.

I have told the truth and it has been such a relief to not have to remember to keep it secret anymore.

Thank you again Gizmo.

 

[livingwiththis]

You are so brave..... I know in canada even if a therapist has this sort of charge against them it becomes public knowledge so you could be protecting future clients which is really great
I know the court system all to we'll and it takes close to if not over a year to get a court date..... it's such a long terrifying process I wish you all the best

 

[City Slicker]

Thank you so much Livingwiththis for reaching out.

Yes, her charge and, hopefully, conviction will both be part of a public record. I do hope if anyone else has been hurt by her they will see it and come forward as well as you said, maybe protecting those in the future. You are right - it is a long process but so far it's been less intrusive than I was expecting but I realize this is only the investigation stage.

Thank you again for your reaching out.

 

[City Slicker]

Thank you @Solara. That means a lot to me.

 

[City Slicker]

Another Hurdle Over
Thank you to everyone for reading and for also responding to my posts.
Here's a quick update: There was no news from the time I submitted my report. I knew that the therapist was given until mid March to submit her reply. As the time approached, my runs increased, my workouts increased and I was a bit more impatient with things around me. I realized it was that 'jaws theme' in the background playing in my head ie, I knew this was lurking beneath the surface and I was anxious to hear what was happening.

I received a letter today from her licensing body letting me know it was going to take them longer to investigate my complaint and that they would reply to me by mid May.

It was odd thinking about her writing out her reply to my complaint; sharing the same 'thought space' again in an odd way if you know what I mean. It's been years and I put all kinds of distance in between what she did back then and who I am now but I realized how strange it was to think about her thinking about me again. I didn't like it and it reminded me of how she initially groomed me way back then.

But as I thought about her having to address what she did, I changed my thinking and quickly took the drivers' seat and remembered that I am the one initiating this, I am the one in control of the process, I am the one letting her know she didn't get away with this and I am strong enough to let the chips fall where they will.

The system is set up to not encourage perpetrators to tell the truth as for them to admit it opens them to all kinds of other civil suits.

In the end, it really doesn't matter what the outcome of the investigation will be. It was a big step I needed to do to take care of things.
Thank you all again very much for all your words of support.

 

[Tanishq]

@City Slicker I don't know what to say. I want you to know I support you and care about you. Whatever that therapist did is wrong. You are very strong, my friend.

 

[Tanishq]

When I feel really strongly about something

Hey @FridayJones and @City Slicker I believe in you both. When you feel strong about something and you don't tell it to others, why? Because it grows strong even more when you keep it in your heart. I am doing this now a days, so I can understand this.

More support to you @City Slicker, I am so glad that you found this forums.