Responses To Your Therapist That You Will Probably Never Say

[DharmaGirl]

I am NOT better. I am WORSE! I used to have a job, and friends, and it didn't take divine intervention to get me out of the house. So, NO, I am not better. I don't trust you. I think you go above and beyond for me so you can write a book on severe PTSD. I know you manipulate me and I hate it.

 

[Changing4Best]

I didn't bring you chocolates for Valentine's day, nor anything green for St. Paddy's, but since today is April Fools, we are going to talk about YOU the whole time! (grin).

 

[AFletcher8]

That is what i've been doing but somehow this approch got noticed and T was understanding but a little hurt that I'm not TOTALLY open. Decided to talk about why so T inderstands and doesn't think i'm just being akward. Ill let y'all know how it goes tomo night.

This went down really well, T agreed that this is a healthy approach for both of us, then we had a little giggle over me making him work for it.

@SheilaKathy I dunno if I want to know too much about my T outside our space. If I found out he was really an arse I'd find it rather distracting.

 

[rainy_daze]

In response to me complaining that my partner isn't doing any housework and it's having a huge impact on my stress levels, my T genuinely said this recently:

T: Buy a dishwasher then.

I swear, I was stunned, and I just replied that I didn't have the money. I wish I'd said:

Me: Please take your middle-class suggestions elsewhere, and give them to people who can afford them. Thanks.

I'm not stupid. If I could afford a dishwasher I'd have one. That still wouldn't really fix the problem anyway. I also didn't ask for a suggestion. Silly therapists.

[Note: I actually like my T these days. She realised this was not the right thing to say. I'm grateful she is genuine, if I think about it. A dishwasher is clearly, in her life experience, the answer and has reduced her housework duty stressors :rolleyes:.]

 

[Red Feather]

I sometimes wish you would remember that I am a person, not a text book! But I love you anyways.

 

[Let It Be]

So I ask the counselor how I am to cope with finally realizing that living next door to this person is too much for me. She can't understand why I am feeling like this that I even had gone to see a realtor about moving.

Her response: Put up a shield to protect myself

Okay, and I leave her office.

I'm thinking I must be "Wonder Woman" and begin to look for my imaginary shield. Unfortunately, my thoughts also go to all those times when it would have taken more that an imaginary shield to protect myself from being verbally or physically abused.

So, now 6 weeks later, my HP has decided that I can remain in my home as my neighbor is moving which I must say is quite unbelievable. I haven't told my counselor because I really don't want her to spoil this fantastic news for me as in the past I have felt not validated by her.

 

[Changing4Best]

@Let It Be, I think you need a new therapist, one who makes you feel comfortable and not the way you feel with this one. How will you be able to make any progress with this one, when there are things you feel reluctant to tell her! I asked my MD for references to several therapists, then picked one at random to try out and see if I liked her. Since I do like her, I never bothered to try testing out any others.

 

[Tanishq]

That still wouldn't really fix the problem anyway.

That sounded like previous T must be very busy you know ;) Forgive them please. :)

I understand you, sometimes T should try to listen their patients/clients. Not just throw the suggestion right away. It makes me feel/think that don't try to think either and there you go, you feel invalidated by those kind of Ts. :cautious:

 

[Let It Be]

@SheilaKathy - When I went back to her this last time, I believe I was testing the waters again so to speak. I have made major changes in my life since I began seeing her which I'm grateful for and my life is not in crises mode now like it was.

Afterwards though when I would listen to my intuition, etc., it would say that I have outgrown her, among other things, and not to go back. I recently used my jury summons as an excuse to cancel the appointment that we had.

Yes, I believe it is time. Thanks and I'm glad that you have found someone that you like.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Put up a shield to protect myself

Can I borrow your invisible shield if you're not using it?

 

[Let It Be]

@DharmaGirl ~ I was at a place where I thought the only solution to this long-standing problem was either for me to move or for this neighbor to move, and as of yesterday, she moved out-of-state.

Maybe this invisible shield had some hidden magical powers that I wasn't aware of?

So sure, you can borrow it because as of today, I'm too busy doing a Happy Dance.

 

[DharmaGirl]

It must have been the shield! Thank you for letting me use it!