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@Rain it sounds like you are really working through some things. You were a good mom in many ways. I am not sure about your whole story.
I can hear you going back and forth between what you did well and also that you failed them. This sounds a little bit extreme or black and white. Maybe you failed them in some ways and helped them in some ways.
Even my mother gave me a lot of gifts. I love her so much even though she hurt me greatly and will never really see me. I am vlc with her.
The more I look at my mother clearly and see what she did, the more I get a piece of myself back.
I still have a relationship with her. She knew I called a suicide hot line last month, but still started the conversation with, "You need to stop seeing that T. She is poisoning you against me."
I told her, "Seriously mom, please don't tell someone who is suicidal to stop seeing her doctor. Seriously!"
I realize that I can have compassion for her as I try to clearly see her.
I can hear you going back and forth between what you did well and also that you failed them. This sounds a little bit extreme or black and white. Maybe you failed them in some ways and helped them in some ways.
Even my mother gave me a lot of gifts. I love her so much even though she hurt me greatly and will never really see me. I am vlc with her.
The more I look at my mother clearly and see what she did, the more I get a piece of myself back.
I still have a relationship with her. She knew I called a suicide hot line last month, but still started the conversation with, "You need to stop seeing that T. She is poisoning you against me."
I told her, "Seriously mom, please don't tell someone who is suicidal to stop seeing her doctor. Seriously!"
I realize that I can have compassion for her as I try to clearly see her.
