Sad Dreamer's Introduction

[jo may]

SadDreamer this is what the forum is for, to help support each other and offer advice if we think we can.

I lost my Nan 2 months before my 21st birthday I'm 32 now and I still miss her so much, I haven't told anyone this but I think you might understand. About 2 months ago I was dreaming that I was sat in my Nan's kitchen drinking tea and my children were running around playing. Nan was flapping like she always did and getting their names confused. At the end of the dream she turned to me and said "never forget I'm here for you and I love you" and gave me a really big strong hug. Thing is when I woke I actually felt like I had been hugged and she had never met my kids.

I'm just saying even though they are gone doesn't mean completely I believe full heartedly that the people I have loved and lost are still with me. And that gives me hope as I really need them at times.:)

 

[SadDreamer]

Jo may, that is wonderfully beautiful

 

[Sandra]

We are all good listerners in here. As we have all had different types of tragedies to deal with. Now we are trying to face and deal with them which isn't an easy road for any of us. And welcome to the board.

 

[a3a2]

Dear Saddreamer,

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for what you have suffered, and that your mom was unable to support you when you really needed her. You will find a lot of support here on the forum, and a lot of women who have had a similar experience.

I would encourage you to grieve. I believe you can also find some great support at pregnancy counseling clinics. Most have post-abortion counseling for free, as well as a staff full of women with similar experiences and understanding, caring hearts.

 

[Ron]

I want to tell you something. I want to tell you it is ok. I want to be your witness here. I want to say "you're human" and that you did the best you could do. I want you to write a letter to your father and I want it to say to him everything from your heart. Please make 2 copies, one for you and put the other one in an envelope. Take the envelope to where your father rests and read it to him. When you're done reading, place the letter in the envelope and leave it with him.
And then write a letter to your unborn baby. Make it say everything from your heart. Read the letters aloud as much as you want. And keep these letters in your purse.
It's ok you know. It's ok to cry. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to be human. Nobody is blaming you. So stop blaming yourself alright? I think you are an amazing person with a ton of courage to write that. Thank you for letting me read it.

 

[KP the nut]

you for letting me read it.

(((Ron))) what you wrote was wonderful. You are a truely amazing man. My life is richer for knowing you.

 

[CraftyCath]

So stop blaming yourself alright? I think you are an amazing person with a ton of courage to write that. Thank you for letting me read it.

I agree with KP. Ron, that was truly beautiful, it brought tears to my eyes. In this world of pain it is good to find people who still care, and care deeply. Thank you. x

 

[Prettysmile]

Sad Dreamer thanks for sharing. I can tell you went through and maybe still in a lot of pain. The breakup with T and the passing of your dad and the abortion. Wow, alot of emotional trauma. Something I can definitly relate to. All those things will shape a person personality and their out look on life. Myself went through a very familiar story. Having the perfect life, falling in love with my first love, the abortion.. I understand. I am a daddy's Girl and thank God I still have him in my life and I can only imagine the pain if I were to lose him. So my heart goes out to you. You are extremely strong and brave for beginning to tell your story. That's a part of the healing process.

 

[CraftyCath]

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