Sad thing - When you tell your therapist all your abuse and she can’t hug you because of boundaries.

[Snowflake]

You’re not messed up. You are doing your best. Your body and brain are doing their utmost.

I’m ok with the “no contact” thing only because I think that in general a) it protects the therapist and the patient; b) it encourages the patient to look to themself first as a point of soothing; and c) there are more ways to show support than touch. I think for some people, touch has been mistaken for attachment. There’s more to feeling safe and cared for than touch - it’s someone who is consistent, predictable, reliable, respectful and who makes amends when there’s a relational breach.

Something I’m learning :)

 

[Kieran]

This is definitely hard. Personally, my therapist allows hugs every once in a while, nothing wrong with a genuine hug, if it's warranted. I think hugs can be very powerful, and I'm so sorry that her boundaries seem to not allow it. Warm virtual hugs for you.