General Safe Haven

[amethist]

Do you have a safe place to go if it all gets too much for you, or your loved one rants and rages at you so you have to get out.

I just found a new one today.

I have a friend who I have known for a bout 10 years now, and I asked her today If I could stay with them if any of the above happened. She said I could go over anytime I needed to, even stay in there spare room for a couple of days if it got that bad.

 

[Shaan]

You are lucky if you do have such a friend. I once let my friend stay at my place for a month not because any of the above happened or for that matter anythin bad but just as a normal "I need a place to stay" help. And I would say I would never ever let her stay ever again if I had to again. Yes, maybe another friend.

I have a problem of trusting too much. My advise, trust. But have a backup plan.

 

[GWhizz]

Hi @amethist - that's really great that your friend is willing to be there for you at such times.

I don't really have a safe haven per se, but today things got too much for me when I had an emotional flashback and my partner recommended I take time out for myself in our bedroom while he took care of the baby etc. Thankfully he never rants or rages at me though, or I'm not sure I would consider him much of a loved one :-o!

Other things I do when I need that mental space include: going off for a coffee alone, doing some art or photography, retail therapy lol, or having a nap hehe :-D

 

[nursenurse]

Even in the light of a non PTSD marriage, I kept a circle of friends who have been with me forever. When I dropped everything back with the Dude last year, I actually could not face my home and spent the night with my daughter, she lives in a city between where he and I live. She has been a godsend ever since. If one thing came out of that bloody disaster last year, it is that my daughter and I are much closer.

I would never hesitate to land on the doorstep of a good friend for a night. My other safe haven is travel. Of course I do it for work now, but even while married, I took the odd trip away, planned and not. Actually found a local hotel that took me and my dog. Saved my sanity many times.

 

[amethist]

Nearly went to my safe haven a few days ago, but hubby backed off and calmed down before I was ready to leave.