Safe/unsafe People

[Lucille]

detachment - check
abandonment - check
criticism - check
perfectionism - check
shaming - check

I agree with some sentiments shared above... I think the worst part about this whole thing is how mean it has made me. I am trying to address the underlying issues so I don't take out my fear and anger on my friends who don't deserve it. So I don't get trapped doing the same things to others that were done to me.

I would love to see the boundaries handouts! I could really use some guidelines where that's concerned. I've finally lain down the gauntlet with my perpetrator, and I'll be damned if I can't see it through...

:O_o: *determined*

 

[Lucille]

Also soulofLC, I would just like to send hugs your way. I'm sorry you're having a tough time with the loss of your mother and your therapist. Both of those independently are extraordinarily difficult to cope with, but together even worse. Take your time in putting up the rest of the information. We're here to stay!

 

[soulofLC]

I hear you Lucille. Will get on it ASAP. Right now, trying to put one foot in front of another. Give me a week or so to put it all back together.

Boundaries are what triggered me. I realized that whenever I set them with my family, I was punished big time. That is a scar that is healing, and I should add slowly due to the recent loss of my mom.

But I am getting there, to a place where I can start working on myself again. Also to pass on what I am learning in these handouts.

Ultimately, I have to love myself. I am working on it.

 

[soulofLC]

Take your time in putting up the rest of the information. We're here to stay!

Thank you for your kind and comforting words. soul

 

[soulofLC]

I like your attitude, Lucille. Determined is good!:)