I am beginning CBT therapy; this is the first homework given me by my new therapist. Another member suggested posting it, as both of us feel there would be some interest.
I will start slowly, posting some each day as I have time. I will also try to do it in an organized fashion, so that it makes sense. An ongoing discussion would be great if there is interest.
I will start slowly, posting some each day as I have time. I will also try to do it in an organized fashion, so that it makes sense. An ongoing discussion would be great if there is interest.
UNSAFE PEOPLE
Unsafe people are particularly difficult to spot. Often, unsafe people appear winsome and promising and their character problems are often subtle. So how do we know whom to trust? While there are many kinds of unsafe people, many of them fall into four categories: the abandoners, the critics, the irresponsibles, and the exploiters.
Abandoners: These are people who can start relationships, but who can't finish (stay in) them. They destroy trust.
Critics: Critics are people who take a superior role with everyone they know. They are judgmental, speak the truth without love, and have no room for grace or forgiveness. They are more concerned with confronting errors than they are with making connections. They are clear thinkers, so they can be good people to go to for information, but they have troubled relationships.
Irresponsibles: Irresponsibles are people who don't take care of themselves or others. They have problems with delaying gratification. They don't consider the consequences of their actions, and they don't follow through on their commitments. They are like grown-up children.
Exploiters: These are people who are just out to gain for themselves. They ask you to do all the work and provide all the benefits while they offer little in return or make a promise, which they never fulfill. They use people for their own gain.
