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Relationship Saying "i Love You"

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Sephira

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Hi everyone! I hope you are all doing well. I haven't been on here recently because there has been no real problems. Life has been good! My sweetheart has been doing so well! Life will never be like it was before the PTSD but we've been doing the best we can. We work together, and things are basically okay.

However, one thing is bugging me. My sweetheart has not said I love you in well over a month. He is extremely stressed. He's preparing for an assignment overseas. His work hours are insane- sometimes 12 hour days under very stressful conditions. His temper is short, he has many stressors now. Often lately, I am one.

Despite this, he is trying. He goes out of his way to spend time, buys me gifts, is intimate with me and uses endearments when we talk. But doesn't say I love you anymore. What was the norm is now non existent.

I know it sounds so small but I often wonder why he's stopped- it's begun to really bother me. I've mentioned it but nothing has changed. I want to discuss it with him, but with the assignment coming up, I wonder if would cause him to become stressed, get angry and isolate.

My worst fear is that he is attracted to someone else, or his feelings have changed. Is this something that I should wait to talk about or risk bringing up now?
 
Completely non-related to PTSD, but my ex-husband said I love you maybe six times in the eleven years we were together. It was nice to hear, but didn't change anything as I knew he loved me.

Conversely, I also knew when he didn't love me any more, even though from the outside at that point our marriage probably looked stronger than it had in years.

Do you feel that his feelings have changed towards you? When you spend time together, does that feel different? When you are being close, if you say "I love you" to him, how does he respond?
 
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