Sexual Assault Scared Child

[chant2012]

I had problems with compulsivity as well.
Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers

 

[Lucycat]

Hi Chantel,

I never got the belt, but was regularly smacked on my bare bottom by my father's hand. Most times I had been naughty, but sometimes we all got it if no-one owned up. That meant we were getting hit for something we had not done. If we had misbehaved while father was at work, we were told we would be smacked once he got home. That meant we had the whole day worrying about the smacking that was coming... and it always did. It was never forgotten.

He was proud of the fact that he used physical punishment to discipline us. He used to preach to others how they should bring up their kids, like they were perfect parents or something.

I hate it now when the discussion about physical punishment comes up. I don't agree with it, and find it hard to understand why anyone would want to hit a child. I know they are hard work but...

 

[chant2012]

I am sorry Lucy :(
I don't understand either. I mean, I get that a swat on the bottom is okay in my book, but I think my father went overboard. I am sorry yours hurt you and your siblings as well.
I also understand the 'waiting game'. I found it almost worse in a way almost.
Supporting you! Safe :hug: if OK.

 

[Julie Purple]

It's not as bad as many people's memories are I am sure but it still had my mind in shambles and I was panicky and very jumpy. It was painful to relive in my mind... I don't understand....

Please don't ever feel your experience is not "AS BAD" as someone elses. It happened to you, therefore it was as bad as anyone elses that happened to them. I think that way too sometimes, and it just devalues your pain compared to others. Your pain hurts just as bad as mine.

 

[chant2012]

Julie, thanks for the validation. It means a lot to me. I am sorry that any of us carry this pain. But, there IS healing and it IS possible. I care. Thanks again for the support. Blessings to you.