Sufferer Scared Girl With Bad Nightmares...

[CptPirate]

Guardians? Has there been a need to take you from your home? Are you in foster care?

Yes. I was adopted.

 

[shimmerz]

How old are you now? Do your adoptive parents know about this abuse? Do they know that you are suffering from nightmares etc?

Just to be clear, you are adopted and not still a ward of a children's society right?

 

[CptPirate]

15, not a ward no, was lucky we leave russia when im 12, usa is much better for this situation.
They know, the way it handled was they were told, i dont like to tell of nightmares, i dislike to be a nuisance to people.

 

[Silver.]

I think it would be good for you to tell your guardians that you are having trouble moving on from the past, and that you think a therapist would be able to help you.
These people took you in because they wanted you, and I am sure they would want you to be happy. You don't have to tell them everything if you think it will upset them, but do tell them you are struggling. Having as much actual support as possible will be beneficial to you as you start to heal from of all this x

 

[CptPirate]

This is most likly, they were chosen for they had another girl before from the similar situations and they treat her so well she still live there part time despite be in college. They meet biweekly and all when she at college, it's quite nice. they are nice people.
i will consider to tell them, it is difficult for me to mention negatives to ppl in any capacity...it took me from february to now to post here after i register, as example.

 

[shimmerz]

I was 14 when I started to have nightmares. I had no idea I had been abused before my adoption. I was 2 years old at that time. That was not the story I was told.

I think that you may want to mention it, as it may help your guardians to help you. They may or may not be able to find you someone who can help, but I would let them try at least. A trauma therapist would be best.

 

[shimmerz]

i will consider to tell them, it is difficult for me to mention negatives to ppl in any capacity

It's funny how we sometimes see the concept of negative. If they are helping you, I am certain that they would see your telling them about the nightmares as a positive thing. For a few reasons
1. It shows that you trust them
2. It helps them let you know what you might need help with (and it sounds like they like to help)
3. They sound very loving, and loving people want to hear what is happening in the lives of those they love

 

[CptPirate]

this sound odd and make no sense but i was effectively train never to mention anything to anyone...it is a umm opsticle? how it's spelled.,..not matter, my correction auto is russian so not much useful to englinsh...anyway, yeah i was train to not discuss my issue...i took to here as first step?

 

[shimmerz]

but i was effectively train never to mention anything to anyone

Yes, that is true for most of us @CptPirate. It is one of the first things that needs to be addressed in healing. And you did it! You signed up and asked questions! And see? We want to help you! And so do others.

People who are not abusive want to help. And that is the beautiful thing in that lesson. Learning that some people can be trusted to help you. :hug:

 

[Abstract]

I understand having difficulties telling people things or discussing negatives. I just wanted you to know that getting and asking for support is good and that you did a good and brave thing by posting. I hope you can tell your guardians about what is happening.

What happened to you was wrong. You are blameless in this.

It is a great step that you posted here. Not being able to speak is definitely an obstacle I find. I have a history of severe internally aimed backlash when I do. You can break it down little by little. You are doing that already. I agree with Shimmerz that non abusive people are usually pleased when we show we trust them by sharing.