Scared i cant do what i want

[Deleted member 45408]

I think a councilor can help you with this fear. It's like a repetitive cycle in your mind that you n...

thank u so much...I'm looking for online counselling...that takes insurance.does anyone know?

 

[Supervixn]

what about the movie for the love of nancy?

We aren't in a movie.

This isn't going to happen to you.

I could watch a zombie apocalypse movie and believe it's possible when I walk outside into the world but it isn't gonna happen. I could believe The Notebook will happen to me. It won't. Dont let fantasy take over reality. Let's bring it back to the real and stop catastrophic scenarios that arent aligning with reality. It's something you will have to keep practicing to conquer. You have to retrain your thinking to get past this.

 

[Supervixn]

Can you work one on one in person with a councilor? Call around places and ask about sliding fees for low income. I got through a few doors paying $5 - $25/session. Be reasonable but don't put a price tag on your mental health. You're worth getting healthy and your children are worth it too.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

but its a story based on nancy walsh...can u google nancy walsh anorexia ...it happened to her...her parents got guardianship of her for anorexia...she did end up giving it to them basically though...they might have found her competent...but id b scared to even get to that point where someone would test my competence and possibly lose my rights...I don't even want to b anorexic like that.just paranoid being 10 to 15 pounds someone would try or for drinking...just hard to comprehend that I'm free...and for some reason I'm just having this after all these years

 

[Deleted member 45408]

Can you work one on one in person with a councilor? Call around places and ask about sliding fees fo...

its hard to find a sitter to watch them once a week..if I could find one that did weekends..

 

[Deleted member 45408]

if only better help was free.though I'm not sure about that site

 

[Supervixn]

My councilors have had no problem with me bringing my child along. We go into a seperate room while she waits until the appt is done. You do what you have to do.

 

[mumstheword]

what about the movie for the love of nancy? they took her for guardianship for anorexia...she did give u...

Are you planning on getting life threatening ill from starving yourself? Please get some therapy. Don't do this to yourself. Your husband is your next of kin, unless he lobbied for it, they can't do anything against your will. You are a grown woman with a husband, no one can come in and take over your lives. If you are both in a very bad way and couldn't care for your children, there might be cause for outside action but it wouldn't be guardianship. No one can get past your husband unless he is abusing you and even then, it wouldn't be guardianship. It wouldn't even be about you, it would be the safety of your child/children. So.If your husband is in the picture, he's considered your carer if you get too unwell to care for yourself and even he wouldn't be given guardianship. And as you are a good mum and you have a non-abusively husband. There would be no grounds for any intervention. No child protection which is the only thing, if you are unfit and you didn't have a fit husband and certainly no treating you like a child via guardianship.
You can't base your fears on a movie. Please get some mental.health counselling.
Please seek professional advice.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

ill see about this....and ill try to believe that nothing can happen to me..but I don't know how to get over that story of nancy walsh...her parents filled for her for anorexia....I know its for anorexia..but paranoid that they will do it for low weight,,because I always got in trouble for how I looked..either too fat or too skinny,,and I was too fat on Monday too skinny on Tuesday...no jk..every other day it changed..i don't want to get in trouble for how I look...like I got a tubal recently....I made the decision to not have any more kids..i should b allowed to choose how I look and choose what to drink and not drink....sorry for rant..

 

[Supervixn]

I mean if we want to bring up scenarios, let's think about all the unfit parents of children who were never taken away when abuse and neglect was apparent. You hear about it all the time. It's not easy to take someones kid away. The state isn't barging in taking kids away based on someone being anorexic or drinking alcohol, or having mental health struggles. If they were, maybe some of us here would have had a different life...

Consider it from all sides not just the one you fear. Consider how this is affecting your children because I guarantee you they're feeling something from this. It's your responsibility to get your mind right. Don't hand your traumas over to your children because of whatever million excuses we could imagine as to why you can't get help...

 

[Deleted member 45408]

thanks..i feel more at ease.

 

[Deleted member 45408]

u do know I mean I'm afraid of someone taking guardianship of me though right? not kids