General Scared Of His Harmful Thoughts!

[KingsOmega]

My fiance is in treatment for PTSD. His doctor is having him try many new medications and combinations of medicine. He just started a new drug this week and I'm very worried about what he is telling me. Today he had some sort of spell in the shower and sat down in the tub with the water on for over an hour. He told me that he's been thinking of cutting himself and having other thoughts he only describes as "strange". We are physically seperated right now, thanks to the Army, so I only know what he tells me. I'm somewhat encouraged by the fact he's talking to me but I'm worried it's much worse than he's letting on and I fear he's going to hurt himself. I told him to not take the new med tomorrow and head straight to the doctor. I feel like I'm already trying to meddle and "fix" the situation but I really want to call his doctor or someone myself. How do you decide when to meddle and when to let them handle the situation?

 

[Nicolette]

I fear he's going to hurt himself.

In answer to your question....if I felt like this I would think it was time to step in like you have done.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Sometimes meds can actually make things worse for us. I hope that you got him back in to see his Dr, or at least convinced him to go.. Good luck!!!!

 

[kers]

You gave him excellent advice. It's true that some meds can temporarily increase self-destructive thoughts, so they need to be monitored extremely closely and possibly changed. I hope he listened to your sound advice.

 

[pebbels]

Hi KingsO:hello:I think it is really neat that your fiance is communicating with you, that tells me he trusts you which is great, you are not meddling, you are looking out for the man you love and ensuring he stays around. My ex continually spoke of suicide but would only inform me after an episode or how he felt, his therapist told me that it was up to my ex to work through it and if it should happen I was not to blame myself, that was no comfort to me, so you go girl and get to the doctors with your partner(with his consent of course) because at the end of the day it is YOU your partner turns to. All the best.:Hug_emoticon:

 

[TLight]

Kuddos for being there for him. He needs you and needs to know how much you care for him.
Thanks for understanding this disorder and helping him. Let him know you are always there for him no matter how he is feeling..........isolation for us is dangerous.

 

[KingsOmega]

Thanks everyone! He did get back into the doctor and got the meds changed. Now he's complaining of a constant headache! I wish we could find the right combination of drugs without the goofy side effects! So frustrating!

 

[snoco]

I once got put on some anti-phsycotic drugs for extreme stress related to constant movement (head shaking, teeth grinding, etc) which the doc thought was more of a physical turets disorder. Those meds really made me kind of disconnected. No emotion. They stopped the headaches and head shaking but didn't really make me myself. I completely understand. I'm glad you were able to help him. My wife, I don't think, would have that strength.