My partner and I have had problems in the past, but overtime we worked on stuff and we had a decent period of time where things have been good.
I decided I no longer wanted to be responsible for him waking up in the morning. I took over the responsibility during a time I was afraid he was going to lose his job due to him shutting off the alarm clock and falling back asleep. Since his perfect attendance record at his current job seems to be so important to him I was ready to wipe my hands of alarm clock duty.
Morning one, he does just as before, he turned it off and then woke up an hour later in a panic yelling a time to call his job while he gets ready.
Morning two, he decides he wasn't going to do an errand before work like planned so he said he was going back to sleep. I told him to change the alarm clock. He told me he would keep an eye on the clock for the next hour and a half. I told him I was not going to be responsible so he needed to set it. He mashed a bunch of the buttons and told me he wasn't going to take orders that he would wake up in time. I feel back asleep.and so did he.
I woke up realized he had a half our to get to work, which is an hour long drive, I nudged him to get up. He flipped out on me accusing me of wanting him to lose his job. he said, "You know I had an interview for a promotions today, that is why you did this, you just wanted me to loose it." I started crying and saying no, devastated because this was the old him. I was still in bed and he went to the bathroom started saying I hit him on the head and he was seeing stars. I was confused at this point so I got out of bed to see what he was talking about and he started shouting. "help help, she is attacking me, she hit me on the head." Of course I start pleading with him horrified, "no I didn't, when did this supposedly happen, I know in my heart I did do this." He made a big show of it and how he has a date with a car crash because his vision is blurry because I hit him. So I got scared and took his keys because he started talking about him and other people dying. So he went out side loudly screaming, "call 911 she hit me." He kept make a big scene out side humiliating me and embarrassing me, not to mention the intense pain of his accusations. So, I gave him his keys back.
At this point I was trying to get him to admit that I didn't hit him, I am trying to get to the bottom of the whole thing and asked him did something fall and hit you? I noticed the over the door rack where he hangs his clothes was lying on the ground I thought maybe since he is seemingly so convinced I hit him. I am short he is very tall, he said it was the top of his head and that just isn't reasonable for me to be able to hit him on the top of the head. I am now convinced it was the rack that fell, and he starts faking a seizure. As fake as fake could be. More like flopping around like a fish out of water.
He finally left for work and i have gone from hurt and scared to furious. Was this all just gas lighting and a passive aggressive ploy to get out of being responsible for the alarm?
When I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do, he does it wrong on purpose. He claims to be doing well and is one of the top employees at work, so how can that be if his struggles so hard to remember basic things like our address, and can not load a dish or clothes washer so you can shut the door. He will put 3 loads of cloths in one washer so that the lid won't even shut, and turn it around on me and say that I just want to waste money and that I am looking hard to find something to complain about. I know he does it in hopes I won't ask him to do the laundry again. .
I need a workable solutions since leaving him isn't an option.
I decided I no longer wanted to be responsible for him waking up in the morning. I took over the responsibility during a time I was afraid he was going to lose his job due to him shutting off the alarm clock and falling back asleep. Since his perfect attendance record at his current job seems to be so important to him I was ready to wipe my hands of alarm clock duty.
Morning one, he does just as before, he turned it off and then woke up an hour later in a panic yelling a time to call his job while he gets ready.
Morning two, he decides he wasn't going to do an errand before work like planned so he said he was going back to sleep. I told him to change the alarm clock. He told me he would keep an eye on the clock for the next hour and a half. I told him I was not going to be responsible so he needed to set it. He mashed a bunch of the buttons and told me he wasn't going to take orders that he would wake up in time. I feel back asleep.and so did he.
I woke up realized he had a half our to get to work, which is an hour long drive, I nudged him to get up. He flipped out on me accusing me of wanting him to lose his job. he said, "You know I had an interview for a promotions today, that is why you did this, you just wanted me to loose it." I started crying and saying no, devastated because this was the old him. I was still in bed and he went to the bathroom started saying I hit him on the head and he was seeing stars. I was confused at this point so I got out of bed to see what he was talking about and he started shouting. "help help, she is attacking me, she hit me on the head." Of course I start pleading with him horrified, "no I didn't, when did this supposedly happen, I know in my heart I did do this." He made a big show of it and how he has a date with a car crash because his vision is blurry because I hit him. So I got scared and took his keys because he started talking about him and other people dying. So he went out side loudly screaming, "call 911 she hit me." He kept make a big scene out side humiliating me and embarrassing me, not to mention the intense pain of his accusations. So, I gave him his keys back.
At this point I was trying to get him to admit that I didn't hit him, I am trying to get to the bottom of the whole thing and asked him did something fall and hit you? I noticed the over the door rack where he hangs his clothes was lying on the ground I thought maybe since he is seemingly so convinced I hit him. I am short he is very tall, he said it was the top of his head and that just isn't reasonable for me to be able to hit him on the top of the head. I am now convinced it was the rack that fell, and he starts faking a seizure. As fake as fake could be. More like flopping around like a fish out of water.
He finally left for work and i have gone from hurt and scared to furious. Was this all just gas lighting and a passive aggressive ploy to get out of being responsible for the alarm?
When I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do, he does it wrong on purpose. He claims to be doing well and is one of the top employees at work, so how can that be if his struggles so hard to remember basic things like our address, and can not load a dish or clothes washer so you can shut the door. He will put 3 loads of cloths in one washer so that the lid won't even shut, and turn it around on me and say that I just want to waste money and that I am looking hard to find something to complain about. I know he does it in hopes I won't ask him to do the laundry again. .
I need a workable solutions since leaving him isn't an option.
