Should I Let Him Go?

[bibi]

Hi, I'm completely new to this site and was diagnosed with ptsd about ten months ago. I'm in my late thirties and have been living with the trauma of being sexually abused by my grandmother for thirty years. I'm just coming to grips with it, going to therapy and getting myself back together. I have a question tho and am looking for advice I guess. I just started dating someone from my past; from before I knew my ptsd. I thought he was being very understanding at first, but I was triggered and had to back pedal In or relationship. Now, he doesn't reach out like he used to and seems hesitant to really be there for me when I have my falling apart days. I don't feel supported, unfortunately. Do you just let these people go? Is it me? We went to fast for me, he wanted to see me all the time and I just couldn't handle it. I explained all this to him. I have him articles about ptsd to help him understand what I'm going through. He never mentioned them, no feedback. And I just need someone to be there for me. And it feels like I'm instigating the contact between us and it puts soooo much pressure in me. I can't handle it, not now. won't be forever. Should I let him go? He says he loves me but I feel like I'm carrying the relationship. Ugh.

 

[Friday]

Welcome @bibi

It's very easy for members to miss a post added to an older thread. To get more help I'd suggest starting your own thread, so members can have a chance to read & look at your questions, instead of being distracted by a 3yo post and need to read all the way through to find your questions :)

 

[joeylittle]

Started a new thread, thanks @FridayJones

@bibi, could you actually say this to him?

We went to fast for me, he wanted to see me all the time and I just couldn't handle it. I explained all this to him. I have him articles about ptsd to help him understand what I'm going through. He never mentioned them, no feedback. And I just need someone to be there for me. And it feels like I'm instigating the contact between us and it puts soooo much pressure in me.

And see how the conversation goes? I know it probably seems like a scary thing to do, but sometimes the absolute best thing is just to be really upfront. Especially if you are trying to decide about a breakup.