Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

[Woobs]

The past few weeks have been so painful and I feel like I am living a lie. I am in a relationship with a combat veteran with untreated PTSD. Every day it's something new. The anger outburst over nothing, refusing to participate in my life. He is verbally abusive and can be manipulative. I am always the one bending and accommodating to his needs. Every day is a roller coaster of emotions. Now to top things off I found out he has been exchanging inappropriate pictures and messages with another woman he met online. He is refusing to admit he was involved, even though I saw the pictures myself. I am heartbroken, exhausted, and betrayed. He thinks I need to just get over it already, but I can't. We are not married and I desperately want to start a family, but how can I bring a child into this dysfunction? I cannot talk to my friends or family because they will just say it's time for me to move on. I don't know how much more I can take. I can't imagine living the rest of my life like this.

 

[Iju]

You answered your own question. He is not going to change because you need him to.
I'm sorry...it's hard enough being with someone who does get help.

Seems you have been betrayed in a number of days. The reason we stay is because that pain becomes familiar.
We don't want to face the pain of leaving
Pick your pain. One continues....the other had an end to it.
Sorry you have been so hurt.

 

[Ipopa]

My vet is also verbally abusive and I am ALWAYS the one accommodating his needs. But - he is completely totally faithful to me. He gets hit on a lot and always mentions "his missus" as soon as he politely can.

After all the shite he puts me through and all the effort I make for him if I caught the whiff of cheating I would be out the door so damn fast he wouldn't see me for dust.

:hug:

 

[Woobs]

You answered your own question. He is not going to change because you need him to.
I'm sorry...it's hard enough being with...

Thanks so much for the support. I really wish he would just get the help he needs. I'm not sure that it would fix our relationship at this point, but for himself in the future.

 

[Woobs]

My vet is also verbally abusive and I am ALWAYS the one accommodating his needs. But - he is completely totally faithfu...

That's the thing. A big part of me is so angry. I'm like how dare you do that to me. After all of the shit I put up with, and do for him. It's a total slap in the face.