Should I look for another therapist or just confront her about how I feel?

[PamelaS]

I haven't talked to her yet about my system stuff. It keeps getting put on the back burner because of certain things in my life. Our session today was mostly talking about boundaries, my food addiction, and motivation. My mom normally comes with me to hard appointments, and she didn't go with me this session because she's ill. I know I can bring up important things on my own, but it's always easier when I have someone who sees me every day and can comment on our switches and such.

I know exactly what you’re talking about. Usually my session goes to the very end and I can’t stop talking. My therapist barely gets a chance to get a word in. But it’s like I have so much I need to get out and she’s trained to help with that. It has been helping anyway, even if we’re not getting too heavy issues or hard issues to address. Just take it one session at a time and try to come up with how to deliver it in an appropriate way when you are able to address it. One day at a time. One session at a time. And as alfie always says, be gentle with yourself.

I have to go in and tell my therapist about something. I have to reign myself in though. I’m not worried about telling her I’m worried about blasting her out of the room. We talk about it all the time you know during therapy which is funny so he’s a perfect example of it should I or shouldn’t I? When do you become assertive enough to say something? Well with me I’m orally fixated as well and can’t keep my mouth shut especially if it’s gonna be to my own disadvantage.

My therapist is young she’s living with her in-laws she and her husband don’t have any children they don’t own a home and because of all this she’s chaotic she wants to cancel and reschedule appointments constantly. This doesn’t work for me at all. But on the other hand there’s things I like about her.

So I have to be can be very Abusive and often I don’t even mean it you know I’m not trying to be mean or abusive. I’m just trying to correct something you know. I might even be trying to be gentle believe it or not but you know that other side of me comes out and people are like oh my goodness get me away from this guy.

So it’s part of therapy. In terms of the OP saying I don’t wanna waste time talking about your childhood. I’m sorry you had that experience.

I haven't talked to her yet about my system stuff. It keeps getting put on the back burner because of certain things in my life. Our session today was mostly talking about boundaries, my food addiction, and motivation. My mom normally comes with me to hard appointments, and she didn't go with me this session because she's ill. I know I can bring up important things on my own, but it's always easier when I have someone who sees me every day and can comment on our switches and such.

What does your mom think of your therapist? Does she think that you might do better with a different, more professional and more experienced therapist? Hoping and praying that you and your mom can explore other options for a therapist, even while you are still seeing this one. No therapist is perfect, but I would have issues with the one you have. I would not do well. Good luck, sorting it all out and moving forward.