Sister has a drug problem

[Ronin]

I just want to do more for my kid siblings

You might be able to... when they get better, & in healthier spot in life, themselves.

They need to, sadly, do their part too, & give you a realistic chance at helping... which they are not doing, if at the time too entrenched in their own issues, the whole atmosphere at home is complicated, you are far from it & trying to get closer is only offsetting you, things don’t work to time & schedule reasons, or anything you would very much try working with, if things were any better. That they, at the current time, aren’t, is not a shortcoming of yours.

and do nothing.

Looking for solutions & acknowledging situations & caring is very much doing something.
Stop with that guilt trippy, situations twisting nonsense.
Judgmental bullshit while people try to help someone else with incredibly painful situation is first not helping, secondly tiring, thirdly quite inhumane.

 

[joeylittle]

@EveHarrington - Thread-banned.

 

[Justmehere]

Any advice for any way to help?? My sister gets super confrontational and defensive when approached about things like this but I'm willing to try even though I live in another city.

Al-anon is one resource of many options that helped me figure out how to handle family dynamics around addiction. I didn’t 12-step. I was able to show up in a room of people finding some success in dealing with very similar situations and gained some tools to add to my tool box to be able to respond more effectively.

 

[sprout]

@sprout in the interim, how are younger sister’s activity calendars? Sports, camps, etc. to get them out of the house as much as possible, and in a healthy environment that will help lay foundations for their futures awar from home?

Thanks for this. Both siblings have lots of after school activities they're involved in and enjoy (chess, UIL, choir, etc.), friends they care for, and I bring them over to spend holidays and school breaks with me when my mom agrees to let them. They both are in a really good high school at the moment which should help them get into whichever college they choose. And I'm here to help them with finding scholarships, grants etc. for when they want to leave. I'm really proud of them and hopeful for their futures! They're great kids and are handling life so well despite the obstacles.

Al-anon is one resource of many options that helped me figure out how to handle family dynamics around addiction.

This is a really good suggestion!! I'm definitely in need of better tools to deal with this situation. I've been researching ways to approach the subject again but a lot of the online lists are very vague and not the most helpful. This could probably help me come up with something a little more tailored to my personal situation!