Skype Meetings

[Deleted member 28942]

I am up for voice only. Before talking to each other it would be a good thing to set up a boundaries or a list of things that we don't want to hear/or trigger us. Also maybe even limiting the time at the beginning to lets say 10-15 minutes. Of course these are things that each two individuals need to agree on.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

It's good to set a challenge for yourself, but also important to feel safe.

I figured my challenge is to understand that people don't bite. First I thought I could approach strangers on the street, but that gets me way too scared. People have talked to me about Skype before, so I see this as like a "small step" towards communication. I feel pretty safe with the people on the forum thus far. They've been with me through all my crappy shit.

I think feeling safe is the most important part. That way, it can still be awkward, but you'd know you'll be fine. It can still be frightening, but not to the point where it's really triggering. If it doesn't feel safe, then in my opinion it would be better to start smaller, like maybe just chatting through text. There is always the option to go one step further :)

In the end it's a decision only you can make, but I do think that the awkwardness dissapears after experiencing it a couple of times.

@UniversalBeing I think those are some pretty good ideas!

 

[falling_wave]

I wish there was some way to anonymize your number on here through the website similar to what dating sites do. I'd rather talk on the phone if I have a connection with someone and feel like talking.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Okay @Santa_Laurie I am more of a chicken than I thought.

How about we set a date? That way would be easier too, then we don't accidentally call each other in the middle of the night :P
I did get the headset, so I can call, but I've been procrastinating like I always do when things are out of the comfort zone xD

If any of you guys on the thread have the same issue, then maybe making agreements on a date would help too.