" So Where To Now? "

[Sethe]

Hi CB - thanks for your thoughts. I find it all incredibly overwhelming. I was never raised to 'Talk' so to speak more of a 'suck it up and deal with it'. When initially diagnosed I made the mistake of looking to my family for support and told them how I was feeling and it has been hell ever since. I now have to live with that abuse every day...so the idea of opening up to anybody else fills me with so much angst and trepidation.

I feel like I am just wasting her time and feel so dumb. I have no idea where to start or what to say.

You could tell her this ^.

Ts are the 'neutral party', well, that's what they're supposed to be. Family is usually either too biased, judgmental or the root of the problem.

 

[missing_the _sunshine]

You could tell her this ^.

Ts are the 'neutral party', well, that's what they're supposed to be. Family is usually either too biased, judgmental or the root of the problem.

I had T last night and went in armed with my letter.....as I walked in I thought that if a just gave it to my T to read then I was kind of wimping out...so I used it as a cue card.

I read it to her and then attempted to explain to her what I meant. She spoke to me about the fact that I am not wasting her time...long story short she opened up to me in regards to what she was thinking about my case and the options moving forward. As she said there is so much going on its hard to know where to start. We discussed a number of options....it is amazing how much better I felt leaving tonight. As I left she remarked how well she thought I had done in the session and looked forward to the next.

I see this as a little achievement....it was really hard work and now have the biggest migraine, not sure why because its not exactly like I took the lid off the can and really opened up but at least she knows what I am thinking and feeling about T.

Thank you all so much for your much needed advice, I really appreciate your time and effort that you have all put into replying.

 

[Heather]

I just closed down.

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Ofcourse you closed down! Who wouldn't under those circumstances? She's an idiot but that's already been clearly established.

I shut down too with my therapist but I tell him when that happens and he has the good sense to back off.

 

[Heather]

I would say talk to her and ask her if she is intimidated. Of course, she will say NO but you can tell.

Unless ofcourse you have MY therapist who readily admits that he has no idea what he's doing! HA. He even said told me once that I'd stripped him of his manhood.:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao::p:eek: He was joking ofcourse.

I think I hold all the power in this relationship and I LIKE it that way!! (kidding ofcourse).

 

[OKRADLAK]

HEather, that is AWESOME to have such a great T. Tell him we are all going to come knocking on his door. If he thinks he has any manhood left, wait till he takes us all on at once!!:confused: