Someone Was Nice To Me Today

[desiderata310]

ok. admittedly that sounds weird to say so I should explain. I try to make myself invisible. Seeing that I go everywhere with Charlie that's damn near impossible.

TODAY I went at lunch time to get my weightlifting workout done. As I was changing (seriously, butt hanging out, balancing on one leg), a lady about my age started talking to me. Turns out that she the head of the student rec division at the university. She'd seen us around working out a good bit and wanted to know what they could do to make it easier. I was flustered: partially because of my half nakedness and partially because I never expected anyone to try to make my life easier. I explained how hard it was to find a good place for us to do a workout on the treadmill because there's no room between them and my inability to figure out how to make Charlie comfortable while I run. Seems there is another lady who brings a SD as well and swims. Actually I saw that pair while I was working out. Her dog pretty much just found a spot in the shade while she swam. and would occasionally wander from one side of the pool to the next. Of course, her dog is for mobility issues so he would be accustomed to having that kind of freedom to move around

I digress.

I just found the whole thing very uncomfortable, embarrassing, unique. She told me her name, I told her ours and my department. I am not accustomed to that. I'm just not. Very strange for me. I'm used to having to tough things out and the only "help" is Charlie.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Sounds like a nice person to me, though I get the uncomfortableness.

Are you thinking of swiming instead? I used to do a lot of water exercising. I also did a lot of ellipical too. But loved the pool.

ETA: Oh, also, can you talk to the gym manager and see if they can move two apart further to fit Charlie? Or can he lay in front? In front you could still hold is lead if needed or loop it on the bike? Not sure if you need to but just to keep him in front?

 

[desiderata310]

Are you thinking of swiming instead

I do triathlons so I have to swim but that means a trip home to leave Charlie there while I swim.

There's always a walkway in front of the machines so there's no chance of putting him in front.

 

[desiderata310]

Nobody is nice to me because they actually like me or care about me.

I suppose what I mean to say is that she tried to make my specific set of circumstances better, which seemed nice. She didn't have to say anything to me.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

she tried to make my specific set of circumstances better,

I think that shows they care about you. Or at least care about your circumstances. Like one would grab something off the top shelf in a store for an elderly lady. That kind of thing.

I think many are like that and we, or at least I miss it due to my hyper arousl and stuff.

 

[Jacqueline1]

ok. admittedly that sounds weird to say so I should explain. I try to make myself invisible. Seei...

Lovely syory!

 

[scout86]

Thanks! I'm sort of dreading most of today and have been sitting here looking for ways to avoid it altogether. That story made me feel a bit more optimistic about heading out the door. Which I guess I'd better do now. :)

 

[Freedomfighter]

ok. admittedly that sounds weird to say so I should explain. I try to make myself invisible. Seei...

It can be very tough for PTSD sufferers to accept help and to let good people get close. I have learned that many people are just not good people and therefore my caution shield is always up. Sometimes I interact with seemingly nice people who after a couple of sentences reveal themselves as monsters in hiding. Then I have to remove myself from their negative auras again.

When I do actually interact with someone that actually does seem to be sincere I take it as a gift. You know, the kind of person that does not link friendliness to a personal interest and then turns that into a problem?

Because there are many people who attempt to link interest in something that another person does or even just an innocent comment about someone else's appearance into the display of personal interest. No, it is not. Since I am being stalked that is a real challenge for me, but I have noticed many other people with the same problem.

I can give compliments without in the least ever thinking about another person personally, (which is normal by the way). I can also have intense conversations with someone about interesting subjects without in the least ever thinking about anything that would relate to that discussion partner personally.

Many people, (the abnormal ones) connect such interactions with their own personal and often sexual desires. Now those are the totally dysfunctional ones for sure.

 

[Friday]

<grin> Desi that's just so you :D

When does something awesome happen? Clearly, hopping around on one leg, half dressed, in the loo... Quick! Answer this complex set of questions!... And? You (not only) totally pull if off with grace & poise. :cool: But leave the door open for later convo & see it as something cool someone was trying to do, even if they fumbled it into the most awkward way they could have done. Mad props.

 

[AlohaDreaming]

I completely understand, sometimes my social stigmas make me wonder what someone wants when they are too friendly. Then I realize I used to be like that, and that there are just nice people in the world.