Anglesachse
Diamond Member
The good old "Seconds"
Firstly Marc cocker. She knows you have it, has stuck around and is willing to help you and learn herself.
Take her some where Nice and spoil her. She has earnt it.
I Married my misses in 93, left the Army in 95 and wasn`t diagnosed untill 2009 ish. The misses put up with me for years being an agressive drunken abusive wanker. Right untill she threw me out and disowned me in 2008.
I ended up in Clinic`s for nigh on nine Months before she would even talk to me let alone be in the same room. She also had therapie herself as I was draging her down into my crapy world. She was diagnosed with Depression (no wonder, after what I put her through) and only after I was released back into the world did a therapist diagnose her as having 2nds
Since then we have gotten back together and she has learnt about PTSD and how to deal with it along with me on an ever bumpy road. We talk a lot more about feelings and pay a lot more attention to how the other is doing at any time so as to ensure nobody crashes.
Sure it still happens, we still have our days and all, but we recover sooner and cope a damn site better than we did years ago.
Having someone there to help you is a god send. Yes they suffer because of us, but if they didn`t love us they wouldn`t hang around. Love her back as best you can, work on your and her Beast and you will survive together.
I had my misses at a couple of sessions, and it is hard to be honest when you know they will look at you in a different way afterwards.
My tuppence.....
Take her with you if she wants to go, but make damn sure she knows you have no idea what the session will be like. It comes as it comes as they say. Make sure she knows that stuff may be said that is close to the bone and may hurt, but is not meant to harm.
It is all about getting it out in the open, working with it and moving on. Easier said than done I know, but it can work. There are still details that my misses doesn`t know, you just have to judge for yourself what is important and what isn`t.
"Does she need to know I killed" well yeah she kind of guessed that what with me being a soldier so yeah, here you go.
"Does she need to know How" f*ck no.
You know what I mean, you get a gut feeling, go with it! You know her, let her get to know you and you beast so she can cope better.
Ok so that was more a shilling than tuppence but what the heck
