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[Anglesachse]

Comfort! I hate the fit of tapered leg jeans.

You ride a Horse!! Comfort? Try a Range Rover for comfort and get out mobility.

 

[Tim Cake]

You ride a Horse!! Comfort? Try a Range Rover for comfort and get out mobility.

Range Rover -- way too expensive for my tastes. I have a Ford 4-wheel drive pickup truck, and it suits my needs perfectly. I ride my horses when I want to "get away from it all." No machine noise coupled with a slower pace of locomotion is great therapy. You should go to a local rental stable and try some horseback riding -- do it just for yourself. It will be good for your outlook on life -- it certainly helps mine! Everybody needs a respite from today's hectic "run you ragged" lifestyle.

 

[Tim Cake]

boot cut jeans on such a tight skinny boot would look like Bell Bottoms or Flares.

Not with my huge feet!

 

[Marc St-Louis]

Seen and thank you for the old boys club welcome. It's like coming off a patrol to a cold cup of java and shootn' the shit with boots who have pounded the same dirt, it has been a long time since I have smiled like that... To answer the EMDR - I have only been at it for about 6 mnths, they first tell you about how the right and left brain works and how your PTSD affects these parts as well as the rest of your body and emotions. Then it's baby steps (their terms not mine) starting with your childhood, parents, military career, and deployments... This is all done in a controlled environment... No swearing, yelling, breaking things, etc - just crying, cause they always have at least 4 boxes of Kleenex around.
So I've been at it for 6 .months, pussy footing my way through it all until last week. My nightmares were hitting hard and I decided to tell them about it and how f*cking hard it is to not rip someone's face off, instead of going through their motions of therapy. They told me that I wasn't here for that for now ?! And that is for 2-3 yrs later?!? WTF?! Are you shittin me?! To make things worse, 2 days later I get an emergency call to meet and they sit there saying that I need a vacation for 4 to 5 weeks at a special camp designed for dealing with my type of PTSD because it's too much for them to handle... I'm better off ripping faces than to listen or follow their advice.
There you go EMDR pussy foot may work for civvies but, f*ck off for the rest .
SSM

 

[Tim Cake]

I hope your EMDR works out well for you.

 

[Anglesachse]

................................... nightmares were hitting hard and I decided to tell them about it and how f*cking hard it is to not rip someone's face off, instead of going through their motions of therapy. They told me that I wasn't here for that for now ?! And that is for 2-3 yrs later?!? WTF?! Are you shittin me?! To make things worse, 2 days later I get an emergency call to meet and they sit there saying that I need a vacation for 4 to 5 weeks at a special camp designed for dealing with my type of PTSD because it's too much for them to handle... I'm better off ripping faces than to listen or follow their advice.
There you go EMDR pussy foot may work for civvies but, f*ck off for the rest .
SSM

I hope your EMDR works out well for you.

:ROFLMAO: Er, Tim mate, did you actually read the "Op Debrief" the Ssm wrote?! The Op went pear shaped!

"Hope it works out well" !!!!!!!!! :ROFLMAO: You Muppet!

I think its safe to say from what the Ssm has written, "EMDR sucks cock" at least for him!

Any way. @Ssm, Marc cocker I would take the 4-5 wks at the Camp. Anything they offer that doesn`t cost and may actually help has to be somethíng worth trying.

I was on a Clinic Inpatients program that got me thinking straight, followed by a Civvie Therapist once a week for a long time after that. Put together they did help and I am doing f*cking good thanks to them.

Whatever you decide, I hope it works for you.

Hang in there Brother, it`s a shity and bumpy road but you will meet some good guys on it. You may also meet Alan, for which we all apologise.

 

[Ned]

Hello Marc, thanks for the debrief on EMDR. Sounds like it doesn't work too well on ingrained buggers like us. Sounds like they're tickling it. As much as I'd already suspected from what the UK medics say too.
The good news is thanks to a sensible GP and the stuff I've learned from sound people here, I'm doing fairly well for myself, baby steps, loads of practice, and learning the skills and pitfalls.
Agree with Angle, I'd be tempted to go on the camp, sounds as if you might be with like-minded and experienced people, bet that makes a change.
I'm not going to apologise for Alan because I encourage him!

 

[Zipperhead]

I wasn't diagnosed until after my release, so I have no experience with any "Camps" offered here in Canada. I've been dealing with civis the whole way through. I'd say go give it a try. Better than wondering whether it would have worked a year from now.

The Medical folks really do seem to work on thier own schedule, don't they? Seems the only people that want to get on with it is us. Pussy footing is an adequate term to explain it I guess. To bad the pussy is suffering with rhumitoid arthritis.

 

[Marc St-Louis]

Not a good day!!! My wife and I are going in together next week as she is showing signs of what the Doc's have described as secondary PTSD stemming from taking care of me... Man do I feel like an ass and I mean a f*cking ass!!! So I am sending her on a girls weekend in Ottawa, it may not be much but it's a start. WTF have I done!!! Any suggestions as to what should do? I know that I am not really thinking straight right now, so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

 

[Ned]

Marc, I know that some of the others on this site, Jimmy, Angle, Jenny and many others, can relate more experience of dealing with this aspect than I can. And will....
But after probably five years or so of dealing with my problems, my lass has it too. No point in letting the guilt get you down.
It's part of the deal and part of the task you (and she) have. Sounds like you talk enough, that's the biggest help. If she wants to help and work with you, you're doing OK mate. Hope that helps.

 

[Jimmy1]

Not a good day!!! My wife and I are going in together next week as she is showing signs of what the Doc's have described as secondary PTSD stemming from taking care of me... Man do I feel like an ass and I mean a f*cking ass!!! So I am sending her on a girls weekend in Ottawa, it may not be much but it's a start. WTF have I done!!! Any suggestions as to what should do? I know that I am not really thinking straight right now, so any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

Marc,

As Ned says, there are a few of us around that can relate with you, me being one. I will give you a bit of background.

I was mis-diagnosed in 2002 and by the time I was properly diagnosed in 2006/7 after Iraq, the damage was done and my then wife left me. My son who was 9 at the time decided to live with me.

I have since found a new wife who has taken me on PTSD and all, she has shown signs after only two years of living with me. She gets angry easier and has shown signs of depression.
My son who is now 15 gets regular therapy for depression, anxiety and anger.

I started out feeling guilty, but in the end, it just is.

Marc, the fact that you wife has stuck around means a lot in itself. The fact that she is going in with you next week is something else altogether.

Don't beat yourself up mate, it just increases the anxiety and stress levels and you don't need that.

We are here to talk if you need.

Jimmy

 

[Jimmy1]

And Marc, things do get better mate. From what I gather you are only on the start of your journey.

The most important thing in all this is that you keep talking to your wife no matter how hard things are.

Cheers matey.

Jimmy