Starting Over Is So Hard!

[OKRADLAK]

YOU ARE SO STRONG!!! I wish I was that strong.

 

[Dee Morris]

YOU ARE SO STRONG!!! I wish I was that strong.

You are that strong. You just haven't realized it yet.

 

[Froggie]

((((AngelaMarie, LawPhotos & Dee Morris)))), I left a violent husband and had to care for my kids too. It is a tough time when there is no alimony. But there is something so incredible with women, they always seem to find an answer somewhere along the line. In the meantime, be kind to yourselves.

 

[Froggie]

Pressed the post button too fast as I forgot to add : your exs did not deserve you women !!!

 

[Mockingbird13]

So, here I am now starting over - nobody wins here. Signed the final paperwork tonight and put the home up for sale. I am strong and I know that I will get through this. But this is not a journey that I wanted to do - and especially not alone.

Everything happens for a reason - I just need to be patient and see whats next in my life.

 

[AngelaMarie]

(((hug))) Mockingbird, hang in there! None of us could have thought we would be here!:eek:

 

[Froggie]

But this is not a journey that I wanted to do - and especially not alone.

Life is never as we plan it, it is an adventure, sometimes fun other times difficult. ((((Mockingbird13)))) we'll walk you through this. Linking arms.

 

[Dee Morris]

Are any of you dealing with your Ex using your PTSD systems to attempt to manipulate your emotions?

One of the hardest things I've had to cope with so far in this divorce is being away from my child. I'm struggling with being required to trust her father with her care. Even though, I know logically that he does at least try to be a good father. I know for a fact that he would die to save her.

I still don't trust him because he has proven to me that he is not above deliberately using my triggers to manipulate & cause emotional damage to keep me in our marriage. He doesn't want the divorce so he calls me in the middle of the night pretending that he needs to talk to me about our daughter but then he just complains about how our daughter is distant blah blah blah. I would like to just not answer the phone but what if I ignore the call & it's my daughter calling that time. I don't feel good about being unavailable to her. Especially, since it's not like she's just across town.

I have been trying to be firm & enforce my personal boundaries. I have to be so careful about how I do that tho' because I don't feel safe enough to let my guard down until my daughter is home from her visitation & I have a court order specifying my legal rights as her custodial parent.