Relationship Struggling to support my mom

[Irish eyes]

My Mom was diagnosed with PTSD about 12 years ago. She was molested by her eldest brother as a child. Memories came flooding back after their parents death. We have since cut off all contact with my uncle and just now her other brother as well. As she now says he was also her molester. After all these years, I find myself drained and with a PTSD of my own. She attempted suicide 11 years ago. When things get bad I panic that she’ll try again. To be honest, I’m sad that I’ve lost my family. We had a small family to begin with and now I’ve “lost” my only extended family. I feel so Selfish saying that.
My dad takes the brunt of her anger. After a stroke last year, he’s an easy target for her. She yells at him constantly. I find myself torn between helping them both. I’m feeling defeated. Does it ever get better?

 

[EveHarrington]

Can I ask if you currently live with your parents?

 

[irish eyes]

I don’t. Very close by though.

 

[EveHarrington]

Do you see them quite often? Are you responsible for any of their care?

 

[irish eyes]

I see them very often. I’m only 10 minutes away. I’m not responsible for any daily care. My dad is ok, just a little slow at processing things now. I’m just the one that’s called on when my mom Is having a hard time emotionally/mentally. I have siblings but they’re an hour away. So it’s always me that’s there for support.

 

[EveHarrington]

Can you limit your time with them? Perhaps schedule it in advance so that you’re only seeing them every so often, with lots of time away to take care of yourself?

Does your mom have a therapist?