Stuck In Therapy

[ashdawn8287]

Does anyone ever going through little episodes of not going to therapy because you don't feel like talking or don't have anything to talk about?

I was seeing my therapist every week and it was helping but I recently started missing. As in 2 weeks ago because I don't have anything to talk about. I feel like I am stuck. I feel I have gotten over a lot of the outside stuff and things need to go deeper but I can't because I don't know how to go about that.

I have been having this crippling feeling of disguist and sickness to my stomach. I don't want to be around anyone and I don't want anyone looking at me. I think it is from being molested. I want to cover up every inch of my skin. I suppose I could talk about that in therapy?

I made an appointment with my CBT therapist for tomorrow. I also finally called the EMDR therapist back because the semester is over.

 

[Emma13]

Oh absolutely. I haven't been in real therapy for a year. I don't like talking about what I went through or what it has affected in my life.

 

[ashdawn8287]

You think we will ever get over that?

 

[Emma13]

Do you mean get over what happened to either of us? Or back to therapy?

 

[ashdawn8287]

Sorry to confuse. I mean get over not being able to discuss about our uncomfortable issues in therapy.

 

[Emma13]

I haven't yet and it's been over a year, but I stopped because the person I was seeing was Christian. I had issues I wanted to talk about, but didn't feel comfortable with the person.

 

[maddog]

I think that therapy is a relationship and a process, and like all relationships and processes, it goes through phases of connection and momentum, and phases of stalling and struggle. And obviously, given the nature of the issues being discussed, it's totally inevitable that there will be blockages and hurdles to pushing forward through the hardest stuff.

Sometimes, I think a break is ok. We have to pace ourselves, and to balance the need for therapy with the need to live and all of its obligations. But if the break away from therapy is prolonged and based on a reluctance to face issues which are negatively impacting on the quality of your life, then I think it's a blockage that requires addressing sooner or later, and confronting that blockage directly with the therapist is often the best and only way to find a way through it. Overcoming the difficulties of therapy is actually one of the key tasks and achievements of therapy.

That said, you have to feel comfortable with the therapeutic relationship, and if the relationship itself is the problem, then perhaps it's not the right therapist.

Therapy is a long hard road. It's ok to take time out. But running away is only ever a short term solution. I hope you both find your way back to a safe therapeutic place - you deserve it.

Maddog

 

[SweetPeaandSunBird]

I made an appointment with my CBT therapist for tomorrow. I also finally called the EMDR therapist back because the semester is over.

I've dropped off significantly from my therapy appointments -- money is an issue, time is an issue, recovering time from therapy.

It's interesting that you mentioned the end of the semester. That's when I find I can actually tackle therapy sessions again. It's such a stop-and-go process for me. I get so overwhelmed with my obligations that I let the therapy drop off until I can manage my time (and money) enough to try again.

I hope your EMDR goes well.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I feel I do the same. I think I have come to be at the point where I am putting therapy first and allowing myself to heal. The only problem is it takes so much energy out of me I can't do my other obligations. I guess it is all about finding a balance. But I know I need to put healing first. It is a stop and go process for me too.

 

[warathome]

I feel like shit is about to get real in therapy. When I started it was about dealing with immediate trauma, that was a year and a half ago. However, this is not the first trauma in my life. I hear people share their stories all the time and I am not going to do that. First of all, my experience is something that cannot be trusted with just anyone. With that being said, I trust my counselor completely. And that scares the shit out of me. I know she wants me to start talking about past issues and I do not have any desire to do this. I have been told it will help, but I remember EVERYTHING and do not see how that will be helpful. So I have been avoiding mine. It is only a matter of time before she starts calling.

 

[Deleted member 19292]

Having access to therapists who are capable, or counseling, isn't something to take for granted. Many of us, do without. Take advantage of it. Don't ignore it.

 

[ashdawn8287]

Thanks, I understand that. I do utilize my resources the fullest I can but sometimes I just get stuck and have to sit out a couple weeks. I think that is normal with therapy. I have a therapy session tomorrow too. I never just not go or skip intentionally it just gets overwhelming and I have to refocus my energy in order to go further. If that makes any sense.