General Supporting Your Guy/gal With Ptsd

[Jimmy1]

To all you carers/supporter/partners whether you be male or female.

This forum is designed for people with Combat PTSD to have somewhere to go where they can get questions answered, chat, or just learn about the disorder.

Recently, Anthony allowed supporters/partners/carers onto the site to give them a place where they can learn about how we feel (Us Veterans), or at least give an insight.

However, recently there have been a few support personnel gobbing off on how bad they have it.
I am sorry, but I totally disagree with this. There is another forum where its private and you can go. Its called PTSDForum.

I will say this though. I have welcomed some of the input from several of the regular support people, mainly the partners of veterans. I know that my fiancée reads my posts to see where my head is at, which worried me at first, but is ok now. Even she has commented to me about some of the supporter posts.
I have to go take a chill pill now. Had my 2 cents worth.

Jimmy

 

[wife of]

Think most supporter/carers are just trying to get a handle on things just as much as a sufferer Jimmy.Surely haveing a well rounded point of view with points of view from all involved is healthy,after all a lot of the treatment for ptsd revolves around learning to view the world as civvys do(Helpers supporters are generaly civvys with a litlle military insight).
Are you asking us not to comment / ask questions in any other areas of the site other than supporters discussion??

If so that would be a shame as how can we learn about the condition from a vets point of view otherwise?

Vets and carers both need to learn how to interact with each other,both are suffering,both have bad days and both need help.

I am of course speaking only on behalf of myself,I wouldn't dare to presume to speak for the entire supporters section,but if we have missed something in the forum rules then please by all means direct us to it so we know which areas of the forums we are welcome in.

 

[willis williams]

I don't think Jimmy is saying that carers are not welcome. If you read a good majority of the post from veterans we don't quite go about it the same way as carers. When things turn into lectures on how this vet or that vet is doing all these horrible things we know this we do them or have done them. From the hospitals, meds, shutting down, to the abuse of all kinds. Not to be a ass but my father always told me that you learn more by listening than talking. I like the carers on here it's just sometimes it does become completly engulfed with carers rants and whines about other vets and I won't appologize for defending the vets because they are not on here to deffend themselves. Ask Elizabeth who is an absolute sweetheart I attacked her when she first came on because I thought she was being unfair but it was the way she presented her case and I was wrong. Most PTSD sufferers know what we are doing wrong we may not be able to controll it but we know a little about PTSD. Don't take any of this to heart or the wrong way I am not good at putting words down the way I think them. TEX

 

[Jimmy1]

Well said TEX, that is exactly what I was trying to say. I like carers/supporters on here, I was one of the first to stand up for them, but I will not stand by and see a veteran who has served his country and has come home debilitated.

Wife of, I like reading your posts and I do feel a little sad for Elizabeth8 (yes, I have feelings now).

Jimmy

 

[adeline]

I agree with Tex, I read a lot of posts before I posted or responded to anyone. I wasn't trying to single my husband out or anything. I am just frustrated because honestly I feel like I am the crazy one in the relationship(not saying hes crazy) because I think I say something that is clear but he doesnt understand it. And honestly I think he does the same thing. I need to know how to function with him, how to get along so our marriage doesn't fall apart. I will pay better attention to what i say about my husband...in the future..that way I dont offend anyone.

 

[willis williams]

We all are crazy in relationships and no one knows what the other one is understanding . You seem to know the obsticle ahead of you so you are ahead of the game. Just ask questions and don't expect us to know that you have a question. Just for everyone else to know this is probably not the right spot but right here by ware I live a young man that was a medic came home from his last tour and ended it so he is at rest but I have been real combative today so I appoligize for taking it wrong he is in a better place. Oh I blew the whole sobrioty thing today but I will be on the path again tomorrow can't help but envy him it has to be very quiet. Later TEX