but all good things come to an end. :rolleyes:
I prefer to think that life is ever changing and a journey. While one door closes another opens. I live in hope that some good things in my life will not come to an end before my life ends.
Personally, I think that the "goal posts" in life often change as does our perception. When I married I thought I was marrying a wonderful man and now when I look back I think I had rocks in my head. He has changed and so have I due to the experiences we have both endured.
The forum has grown and once you change the dynamics by adding different personalities it is inevitable that things on the forum will change. People, even those long standing ones who were here at the start, have changed too so when they come here now, 2 years later they may not becoming from the same viewpoint or with the same perceptions they may have before. I could write some examples but I haven't had the chance to ask people their permission as yet.
Me, I came to the forum wanting to understand what I was dealing with. Sometimes it made me sad as people with PTSD ripped my head off simply because I did not understand but couldn't see that I was actually coming here to try and understand. As a carer it is a very lonely place as all we can talk about is how to deal with something we will probably never understand. I personally thought at times that people with PTSD could be very harsh in their reactions to anyone who did not have PTSD. Just my opinion and it has caused me to toughen up and not take things so personally....being on the forum has changed me :rolleyes:
I agree we all need sympathy and empathy at times in our lives but I have found the harsh realities have been the pivotal moments when I made life changing decisions (most for the better).
In terms of the forum, I think if you had a smaller number of people and there were a couple of people who needed sympathy it doesn't seem that it is a big issue. With a huge increase in members I find coming here on occasion very draining if I try and think of something nice to say to everyone.
While I come here today based on what I has happened in my life today I may read something and interpret it one way and then tomorrow view it completely differently. What I am trying to say is that what you once saw in the forum due to a need may not seem the same down the track when you don't have those same needs and are coming from a different point in time.