Hello I am a 19 year old Psychology and Criminology student with Aspergers. I suffer from PTSD and anxiety. 5 months ago today I escaped from a relationship with a sociopath (he is 24). It was complicated the entire thing. He used to be just a friend, then he expressed interest. I was not interested and I became involved with someone else. After a while the sociopath threatened to commit suicide if I would not be with him, and if I called the police he would definitely commit suicide because it would damage his chances of seeing his daughter. My uncle committed suicide when I was 9 and I could not bear these threats. He was cutting himself and had large jagged scars all over his arms. So I agreed however in the meantime I did my research so that he could get help. However I began to smell a rat after less than a week. I began to uncover several lies he had told me during our friendship such as the fact he took drugs. I abandoned my pursuit of finding him help upon discovering this and tried to leave him. However later that night I was literally chased by a stranger whilst I was with a friend. My initial thought was that he had gotten someone to stalk me which I'm still not certain about to this day. When I tried to confront him on this he told me it had been a member of a gang he owed a debt to and that they had seen me with him. He promised me if I was with him he could get them to leave me alone and to stay away from my friends. He said the gang was too large for the police to track all of the gang down and that the members who weren't caught would hunt down whoever ratted. There were lots of reports of gang related crimes in that particular area and the behaviour descriptions were similar to what I've read about. I didn't want to risk my friends getting hurt.
Over time the sociopath became more and more abusive. He would twist my words to make me into a liar, he stole from me, he constantly criticised me, he tried to make me jealous by bragging about the girls who flirted with him, yet when he saw me talking to a male person about my studies he yelled at me in public. He would get so angry if I dared complain or express he was upsetting me or pointed out the tiniest flaws. He called me horrible names, accused me of cheating on him with all the boys on my course, threatened to rape me, sexually assaulted me in public and talked about me loudly in a sexually graphic manner in public with his friends present. I cheated on him in revenge and he came close to finding out but even when he had no evidence he threatened to hit me and get a female friend to beat me up. In the end he didn't dare because I had been to karate for two years and he was a coward really. In the meantime he had his friends stalking me. In the end I decided to go to the police and report him. They placed a restraining order on him and he had to go to the police station weekly on bail, until he was remanded in custody. He has been locked up for a month now either awaiting trial or sentencing depending on how he pleads. His friends have abandoned him to save themselves and luckily for me the sociopath left a lot of evidence incriminating himself which the police say is enough for a guilty verdict practically. It will be dealt with in te crown court and he is facing 7 years possibly more as there is strong evidence of him targeting other victims who are classed as vulnerable adults.
Over time the sociopath became more and more abusive. He would twist my words to make me into a liar, he stole from me, he constantly criticised me, he tried to make me jealous by bragging about the girls who flirted with him, yet when he saw me talking to a male person about my studies he yelled at me in public. He would get so angry if I dared complain or express he was upsetting me or pointed out the tiniest flaws. He called me horrible names, accused me of cheating on him with all the boys on my course, threatened to rape me, sexually assaulted me in public and talked about me loudly in a sexually graphic manner in public with his friends present. I cheated on him in revenge and he came close to finding out but even when he had no evidence he threatened to hit me and get a female friend to beat me up. In the end he didn't dare because I had been to karate for two years and he was a coward really. In the meantime he had his friends stalking me. In the end I decided to go to the police and report him. They placed a restraining order on him and he had to go to the police station weekly on bail, until he was remanded in custody. He has been locked up for a month now either awaiting trial or sentencing depending on how he pleads. His friends have abandoned him to save themselves and luckily for me the sociopath left a lot of evidence incriminating himself which the police say is enough for a guilty verdict practically. It will be dealt with in te crown court and he is facing 7 years possibly more as there is strong evidence of him targeting other victims who are classed as vulnerable adults.
