Thank You To Carers, Especially My Husband

[KP the nut]

I didn't know where to put this thread. As a sufferer with a fantastic husband, I am blessed. I know sometimes he doesn't get it, but he is always there for me, loving, kind and so supportive.

He was away on business on Tuesday night so couldn't take me to the dentist. That's Ok I got through it. I went to bed in the afternoon and was still there when he came home, did he disturb me, no. He knew I hadn't been sleeping so he pottered around downstairs, by the time he came to me he had walked the dogs and cooked a lovely pasta meal, something I could eat with a sore mouth.

He kept asking me if I was Ok, he'd double check as I'm a coper. His hugs were healing.

As sufferers we sometimes are not great at saying what we mean, I get stroppy for no reason and he loves me all the same.

My goal today is to have the dogs walked, supper prepared and a cake baked. I want to pamper him.

I still don't seem to have said what I wanted, basically if you are a carer, we may not say it but Thank you for being there, caring and not running when the going gets tough.

 

[Darkness Shines]

Yes, those of us who have wonderful, supportive spouses are incredibly lucky. I'm not sure how often I say 'thank you' to my husband, but I'm sure it's not often enough.

Last Monday when I was having one of my little dramatic breakdowns he stayed beside me holding me and trying to ground me back into reality for something like two hours. I know at one point I was shouting at him to leave me alone and he didn't because he knew I was unsafe. Afterwords, when I was grounded again, he drew me a hot bath to help me relax and stayed right beside me to make sure I stayed safe. I don't think I acted very grateful at the time either. *sigh*

I do try really hard to do nice things back for James (my husband). I'm certainly affectionate, though that's really just my own neurosis. I'm a clinger, lol.

 

[cherryblossom]

You are both very lucky to have such supportive spouses. But they too are lucky to have you, because you apreciate them so much. Relationships like this take a lot of work from both sides, and you clearly have very loving and honest relationships. So you should give yourselves some credit too, for sustaining such beautiful relationships.

 

[lovinbiker]

they too are lucky to have you, because you apreciate them so much..

Well said CB I have to agree with that statement, im sure they feel lucky to have such wonderful partners even if due to ptsd you cant always show them how much you appreicate them and what they do. There lucky you where willing to put the effort into the relationship and vice versa.
All the best for the future im sure you will have many wonderful years of happiness together.
LB

 

[blwnawy]

Oh KP and DS,
I've been sitting here for 2 hours trying to find the right words:(,
What a tough act to follow for a person, good on you both being able to express this.
The carer's are the real innocent victims in all, the unsung hero's though to speak.
Out of all the Topic's here on the Forum this for me is the toughest, my Nemesis/catch 22.
I can't go on with this, not out of lack of appreciation I so want to express I owe my wife everything, but it's because of being an H with ptsd.
(not thinking bout me it's just the baggage attached, sorry makes me so sad, & don't want a positive topic drawn to a negative)
Guess what I'm trying to say "Thank You To Carers", Especially My Wife

 

[KP the nut]

My goal today is to have the dogs walked, supper prepared and a cake baked. I want to pamper him.

I achieved all three and if i say it myself it was damn good cake. H appreciated the effort I'd taken.

 

[KP the nut]

Oh KP and DS,
I've been sitting here for 2 hours trying to find the right words:(,
What a tough act to follow for a person, good on you both being able to express this.
The carer's are the real innocent victims in all, the unsung hero's though to speak.
Out of all the Topic's here on the Forum this for me is the toughest, my Nemesis/catch 22.
I can't go on with this, not out of lack of appreciation I so want to express I owe my wife everything, but it's because of being an H with ptsd.
(not thinking bout me it's just the baggage attached, sorry makes me so sad, & don't want a positive topic drawn to a negative)
Guess what I'm trying to say "Thank You To Carers", Especially My Wife

(((HUGS))) B, it took me ages to write what I did as well. From what you have said when we've been chatting I think your wife knows how much you love and appreciate her.
It must be really tough for you, you sound as if 'you are the men are tough and look after their wives' format. Marriage is a partnership where both sides care and look after each other.
You did good writing what you did.
Love
KP