Relationship Thanks For The Warning, Honey!

[Peach]

My vet wrote me an email today, he sounded pretty good, but it came with a warning...he got yet another "book" of medical forms from the Ministry Of Defense to fill out regarding his pension. He's been fighting with them for at least a year and a half and it stresses him out so much and, therefore, makes him quite angry. But at the same time, I almost think he likes it. He is a dog with a bone regarding the MOD - it is his mission in life to win his case. I certainly hope he does.

So, his warning was that it's possible that over the next few weeks (he has three weeks to send it back to them) that he might not be in a great frame of mind. I am sincerly appreciative that he told me about it ahead of time instead of just disappearing or getting snappy and leaving me wondering what the heck is going on or if I did something to set him off. Not to mention, now I know to keep things light for a while.

He said he was "not a happy teddy." How can anyone not fall for a big, strong, manly-man who describes himself as a teddy bear?:inlove: Does he have any idea what he does to me when he says that stuff?:hug: And he wonders at my attraction to him. What a doofus!:happy::rolleyes::D

 

[Deleted member 27524]

@Peach I call my fireman my "snuggly" and he agrees so I totally get it haha! Good luck over the next few weeks!

 

[Peach]

Awwww! It's like they're adorable little boys and you just want to eat them up!:joyful:

 

[Deleted member 27524]

Ok I have one for you. So I sent my vet an moon emoji in a phrase months ago that said "I love you to the (moon emoji) and back" of course the emoji is a moon to me however he says "to the purple face?".(The moon looks like purple face with eyes) I said "no silly it's a moon." Well it stuck and since that this moon emoji means "I love you to the purple face and back" It's just OUR thing! He's never told me he loved me but a few days ago after he was isolating and he text me and I was so understanding he text me that "purple face". My heart just melted! ....I put a moon emoji in this but it didn't come through after I posted!

 

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Cutness! Both of you.

 

[Peach]

@Thunderstorm The moon emoji is sooo sweet! Sometimes things like that, private jokes and the things you come up with as a couple, can melt your heart more than even hearing the words "I love you."

Our thing is sheep. My guy is Welsh and he told me long ago about the unflattering nickname bestowed upon Welshmen... Sheep shaggers.:wideeyed: LOL Yeah, I know. So I took it upon myself to look up and recite insulting sheep shagging jokes (of which there are tons). Then, I went to visit him, and yep, lots of sheep around. I like animals, so when we'd pass a field with sheep, I'd comment about it. It got to the point where he said, "you sure do love sheep!" I had a birthday not long after and he sent me this picture. But mine has our names on it where he personalized it. That was 2 months ago and I still look at it everyday. :smug:

[GALLERY=media, 1739]Sheep and goat by Peach posted May 29, 2015 at 12:16 AM[/GALLERY]

 

[Sweetpea76]

Oh man, if the MOD is anything like the American VA...

I literally slapped myself in the forehead at my vet's last VA doctor's appointment. I kept my mouth shut... but I made my point with the loud slap. One of these days when he wants to choke one of those guys out, I'm not going to stop him like I usually do.

Here's hoping the best for your unhappy teddy!

 

[Deleted member 27524]

@Peach I love it! Haha :laugh:yes private jokes are the best!

 

[Peach]

Yes @Sweetpea76 , unfortunately the MOD is as ridiculous and unhelpful as the VA. They nit-pick over pensions, they're too busy with paperwork to actually help anyone, and they offer subpar treatment, if they don't just turn you away first, that is. He went to his military doctors when the PTSD first showed up and it took years before he found out what the heck was happening with him. Even then, it was his family doctor from the NHS (National Health Service) who figured it out! Eventually he was assigned a military therapist for 5 sessions, a regular therapist wouldn't do him much good because he's full of classified information and wouldn't be able to actually talk about much in detail, but after the second session, he was told he couldn't be helped and was sent packing. He's never talked to a professional since, just did his own research and talked to his buddies who also developed PTSD.

It's absolutely criminal!

 

[Purplemunchkin]

Hey @Peach, my hubby was medically retired from the MoD (civilian) police last year.

It took 18 months of disagreements between AToS and the MoD, during which time he received no support, only thinly veiled attempts to get him to resign.

The system is just downright pants!

 

[Sighs]

So sorry to hear you guys are facing these issues. I can't speak for everyone but our Vet Affairs looks after my man very well.

 

[Peach]

@Purplemunchkin I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, but glad it eventually worked out. Better late than never, but that certainly doesn't take away the stress they've caused in the interim.

My guy has said several times that each time he gets yet another form from the MOD, he becomes more and more convinced that their tactic is to give him the run around until he finally just says "screw it" and gives up. But he's vowed to not let that happen - it's the principle of the thing.

So far so good for him, he's still cursing, which is a good sign! When he stops dropping the f bomb I'll know he's going down. LOL

I'm happy for you, Sighs. :)