Justpassintime
Bronze Member
I was molested by multiple persons, yadda yadda. I have five grown children, I never molested any of them, if anything my first got her feelings hurt because I was not physically expressive enough for her needs. I wanted to respect her boundaries too much. I've worked numerous times with children. If anything, my abuse, makes my take doing that super seriously - it's very important to respect the fact that someone is trusting you with their child.
The other side of this is that sometimes you get a ton of stuff thrown at you - labels, statistics and like if we didn't have enough to worry about, now there's a list of things we may or may not do. My worst fear is a personality disorder or that somehow I am secretly crazy. While discussing the possiblity of being bi-polar with my therapist she mentioned the strong personality of PD - well if you ever watch murder shows, a lot of those folks have PD. I was like, wow, I don't want to have that to which she replied, it doesn't matter what the label is, it's how you handle and treat these things.
You are most likely fine. I will tell you the most challenging thing for me as a parent was their smart mouthing because if I had said some of the things my kids have said to me, I would not have had any teeth in my mouth. I choose to walk away (and yes it's a choice). When my son sucker punched me I promptly called the cops without touching him and told them if they didn't come quick they might have to talk both of us. In those moments when that abuse track rears up, you do in fact have a choice.
The other side of this is that sometimes you get a ton of stuff thrown at you - labels, statistics and like if we didn't have enough to worry about, now there's a list of things we may or may not do. My worst fear is a personality disorder or that somehow I am secretly crazy. While discussing the possiblity of being bi-polar with my therapist she mentioned the strong personality of PD - well if you ever watch murder shows, a lot of those folks have PD. I was like, wow, I don't want to have that to which she replied, it doesn't matter what the label is, it's how you handle and treat these things.
You are most likely fine. I will tell you the most challenging thing for me as a parent was their smart mouthing because if I had said some of the things my kids have said to me, I would not have had any teeth in my mouth. I choose to walk away (and yes it's a choice). When my son sucker punched me I promptly called the cops without touching him and told them if they didn't come quick they might have to talk both of us. In those moments when that abuse track rears up, you do in fact have a choice.
