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Here I am again, giving a follow-up on my journey, only because I want everyone to know there is life after loving someone with PTSD. I am single again, the man I met and was with for one year, was a good man but not the one for me, the love I was hoping to feel never materialized and I felt it was not fair for me or him, so I broke it off. I am happy, even though from time to time I still think of my exboyfriend...especially when I hear the someone mention PTSD :) We talk from time to time, but we are just friends now even though he still says he has feelings for me and I guess, deep down I will always care about this man.
He is still with the same woman and as he says "I am happy most of the time". He says his relationship is a different one to what we had. Which is ok, no relationships can be the same, they will be special and good but never the same. Maybe, naively I am trying to find that special bond I had with him...... that is why I am having a hard time loving again ? I don't know, but this is another story lol And as I said, I am happy now, I am at peace with myself and that is what counts.
I now understand what happened and why it happened and I am at peace with it....took me a very long time, but I am at a very good place right now. If I said I don't ever think how things could have been....I would be lying, I do think from time to time how good things could have been between us....if things were different. But they are not, so I am not dwelling on it, now I can smile at the cherished memories of our time together and I am grateful of what we had.
I continue coming back here because when I needed support, help and encouragement, I found it here, so I hope that my journey has inspired and helped those that are in the same place I once was.....and just know that things to get better, once you decide to take action for what is best for you and your loved one and can both move on. We cannot control nor should we take responsibility for another person's happiness, we can only control and take responsibility for our own happiness and life.
God Bless :)
He is still with the same woman and as he says "I am happy most of the time". He says his relationship is a different one to what we had. Which is ok, no relationships can be the same, they will be special and good but never the same. Maybe, naively I am trying to find that special bond I had with him...... that is why I am having a hard time loving again ? I don't know, but this is another story lol And as I said, I am happy now, I am at peace with myself and that is what counts.
I now understand what happened and why it happened and I am at peace with it....took me a very long time, but I am at a very good place right now. If I said I don't ever think how things could have been....I would be lying, I do think from time to time how good things could have been between us....if things were different. But they are not, so I am not dwelling on it, now I can smile at the cherished memories of our time together and I am grateful of what we had.
I continue coming back here because when I needed support, help and encouragement, I found it here, so I hope that my journey has inspired and helped those that are in the same place I once was.....and just know that things to get better, once you decide to take action for what is best for you and your loved one and can both move on. We cannot control nor should we take responsibility for another person's happiness, we can only control and take responsibility for our own happiness and life.
God Bless :)
