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I'm currently doing IOP therapy and they use some pretty cool concepts/ models there, that I'm finding quite helful.
One is a model of how we view ourselves and others/ the world.
There are 4 options:
1. I'm okay, you're okay.
2. I'm okay, you're not okay.
3. I'm not okay, you're okay.
4. I'm not okay, you're not okay.
Option number "1" is considered to be the best/ healthiest in terms of therapy and in terms of being happy.
I spend a lot of my time in option number "2". It's how I survived childhood trauma and how I managed to salvage my self-esteem. I decided that I was okay and that the perp was an utter bastard and that anyone who didn't help me pretty much sucked too.
I see a lot of people I know opting for option number "3" cos they were taught during childhood that they're not okay, and that option number "3" is the safest option.
This okay/ not okay concept is from Transactional Analysis and from a book by Anthony Harris
Any thoughts?
Do you recognise yourself in one of the four patterns?
One is a model of how we view ourselves and others/ the world.
There are 4 options:
1. I'm okay, you're okay.
2. I'm okay, you're not okay.
3. I'm not okay, you're okay.
4. I'm not okay, you're not okay.
Option number "1" is considered to be the best/ healthiest in terms of therapy and in terms of being happy.
I spend a lot of my time in option number "2". It's how I survived childhood trauma and how I managed to salvage my self-esteem. I decided that I was okay and that the perp was an utter bastard and that anyone who didn't help me pretty much sucked too.
I see a lot of people I know opting for option number "3" cos they were taught during childhood that they're not okay, and that option number "3" is the safest option.
This okay/ not okay concept is from Transactional Analysis and from a book by Anthony Harris
Any thoughts?
Do you recognise yourself in one of the four patterns?