Hello to my new friends. I am in desperate need to gain assistance and guidance to help save my relationship that I have with the most amazing woman I've ever met.
She was diagnosed with PTSD before I met her. I did not know this right away and she has intense security, trust and privacy issues. We have been together for almost a year now and I have learned in this time that she has had a nasty childhood. Physically and emotionally abusive. She has told me that her mother would strike her for no reason and tell her that she should have never been born. She has never met her father and as far as she knows (from her mother) he is dead. She has no desire to associate with her siblings, he mother or to seek out the truth about her father.
Also, and I believe this is the major source of her illness, she was stalked by a man who would break into her house and move things around when she wasn't home. He would bang on her windows when she was home, but also befriended her and would do these things and she would call him for security and protection not knowing he was the one doing it. Long story short, he became her "hero" and she ended up marrying him. Soon after the marriage he became abusive. This gets unbelievable, but I have seen documented proof and I assure you this is all true. He broke her neck twice and to top it off, never spent any jail time over it.
She lives in fear of this man, we bar the doors, the motion lights when they come on make her panic, and any vehicle that looks similar to his makes her nearly frantic. There is more to this aspect of the story, a lot more, but I won't go into further detail unless it is needed.
I must apologize at this point because I feel like I'm rambling on. But I have no one else to talk to about this. We can't afford therapy, my family would never understand or have the capacity to grasp any of this and I do have close friends that I can trust, however her privacy issues and my respect and admiration for her won't allow me to tell anyone close to us out of fear of judging her or me. And I really need experienced advice, not a shoulder.
There is more, and I will tell more, but I need to get ready for work. There is more to this story and I will continue when I get home. But know this, I love this woman. More than I can express. I want to help her, I want to work through this with her. She is unbelievable in so may ways, but when things go bad, they go really bad. Thank you in advance. I am hopeful the this forum will at least give me ideas and guidance.
She was diagnosed with PTSD before I met her. I did not know this right away and she has intense security, trust and privacy issues. We have been together for almost a year now and I have learned in this time that she has had a nasty childhood. Physically and emotionally abusive. She has told me that her mother would strike her for no reason and tell her that she should have never been born. She has never met her father and as far as she knows (from her mother) he is dead. She has no desire to associate with her siblings, he mother or to seek out the truth about her father.
Also, and I believe this is the major source of her illness, she was stalked by a man who would break into her house and move things around when she wasn't home. He would bang on her windows when she was home, but also befriended her and would do these things and she would call him for security and protection not knowing he was the one doing it. Long story short, he became her "hero" and she ended up marrying him. Soon after the marriage he became abusive. This gets unbelievable, but I have seen documented proof and I assure you this is all true. He broke her neck twice and to top it off, never spent any jail time over it.
She lives in fear of this man, we bar the doors, the motion lights when they come on make her panic, and any vehicle that looks similar to his makes her nearly frantic. There is more to this aspect of the story, a lot more, but I won't go into further detail unless it is needed.
I must apologize at this point because I feel like I'm rambling on. But I have no one else to talk to about this. We can't afford therapy, my family would never understand or have the capacity to grasp any of this and I do have close friends that I can trust, however her privacy issues and my respect and admiration for her won't allow me to tell anyone close to us out of fear of judging her or me. And I really need experienced advice, not a shoulder.
There is more, and I will tell more, but I need to get ready for work. There is more to this story and I will continue when I get home. But know this, I love this woman. More than I can express. I want to help her, I want to work through this with her. She is unbelievable in so may ways, but when things go bad, they go really bad. Thank you in advance. I am hopeful the this forum will at least give me ideas and guidance.
