The Other Ptsd Forum

[Ammonthejarhead]

So my GF got booted from the other PTSD site for defending Veterans with PTSD from a member that said we need to get over it and we shouldn't talk about the military all the time... Her exact words were "they just need to get over it". I've had some great talks with people on here and gotten alot of help from the members, but I think they need to create another site for our loved ones have who have supported us through our break downs and are trying to help to rebuild us. I'm not bashing the seriousness of people who have noncombat related PTSD and I understand why our spouses, family and friends aren't members of this group, but I think they need a site for combat vet families.

 

[Jimmy1]

Which site was it Ammon.

 

[Ammonthejarhead]

It was the sister site ptsd.org, she wasn't aware that it was mainly non-vets, so she got offended by some of the comments bashing the military and felt that she should stick up for us... it broke her heart when she got banned but she is a die hard supporter of the military and wants to volunteer as a case worker for vet rights

 

[anthony]

Hi Ammon,

I read the transcripts of the conversation, as it had become quite an issue. Your partner also accessed your account on both that forum, and this forum, which is firstly, against most countries laws to do such, secondly, PTSD Forum has a strict legal policy in place strictly forbidding such things, hence both your accounts where terminated, and all subsequent efforts have been closed off near immediately as well.

The way in which you and your partner had spoken to members in the live chat, was simply unacceptable. Whether that was you, or her using your name, I do not know. Regardless, you left your access to your account insecure, hence all associated accounts were banned.

I am currently thinking whether I have to ban your account here as well, as you're obviously leaving your account insecure on your computer, that your spouse is accessing this forum under your account, when infact that is against US and Australian laws for computer access to a website using a registered account.

Do I need to take such action here, or are you going to change your password and ensure your computer is secured when you are not within its presence for access to these websites?

You outlined the issue IMO in another thread, stating your partner was a diehard veteran supporter, hence the issues she created for herself through her responses to others vs. discussing the issue/s, instead berating and abusing other people as a first line of action.

I have little tolerance to stuff about with people in these forums... so I leave the choice and decision to yourself for this forums access. All I am asking is that you secure your access from your girlfriend, and she not register here, as this is for veterans only... otherwise, I will ban all associated accounts as I do not feel veterans should be babysat or such, hence the limited rules of this forum to begin with.

Laws have been broken though by illegal access, and that is an issue that I take seriously, and I have a legal responsibility to act upon. So I am asking you whether you will help yourself with this, which also helps me, or not.

 

[Ammonthejarhead]

I understand your policies, I like this forum and would like to continue here. My lady doesn't know my new password and wont post on here anymore, if she has in the past. But I would like to clarify that the member simplycomplex was berating vets and other members, a dumb arguement started and I actually tried to make peace with her with a 'hey we were both wrong, lets let it go", she decided to hold the grudge. I think its only fair that simplycomplex would be removed too for spreading hate instead of trying to help other with the weight they carry in their ruck. Carolyn was going through a hard time with me being in an inpatient vet ptsd clinic and simplycomplex's comments about vets offended her, she may have gotten rough around the edges, she didnt know that she could just block SC.

One other thing...Carolyn was having a conversation with a vet and they were talking about trauma's and things "we" did in the war had and how bad it was hurting me. SimleComplex came into the room another day and started to tell the group about my truama and that I needed to get over it. I happened to be in the room and knew it was about me and the only thing I told her was to just let it go. Again, my gal was new on that group and didn't know really about private chat and was in a very deep conversation with this other Vet. SC also once said "oh great now the talk is all going to be all about military" when two other Vets came in and my gal started to discuss Vet issues.

Again I would like to stay a member here, my gal wants me to be a part of this group...she feels it's VERY important for my PTSD issues and apologizes for any rude comments to simplycomplex or any other member of ptsdforum.org, but she won't use my account any more and asks that you please don't kick me off of this site.

I understand you did your service with the Aussies... I got 2 weeks off in Perth and thought it was heaven after Rwanda

Thank you for taking this issue up with me,
Ammon

 

[anthony]

Thanks Ammon for being understanding.

Whilst I understand issues arose, the only reason why SimplyComplex was not banned, is because the member did not go on an outright attack against either party. Yes, people can be manipulative and so forth, absolutely, but I do have the chat transcripts and read them for myself. I didn't read her directly attacking, nor was she accessing another's account, hence why she is not banned. That is the reason, and she played within the rules unfortunately, even if with some shitty comments or opinions, they are not against the rules of that forum.

We choose how we respond, and my action was based on the responses. As a vet, if you said that to me, it would slide off like teflon... hence why this forum exists for veterans, as we tend not to play as nice or be as understood by civilians at times.

I am just glad your doing well now and here talking with others. Well done mate.

 

[Ammonthejarhead]

Thanks mate, I'm trying not to be a claymore anymore they used to say that I needed "front towards enemy" written on my shirt when I got riled up. I'm all about fuzzy kittens and sunshine now. You don't have to worry about me blowing up or if I do just bitch slap me and and tell me to act like a Marine