The Push And Pull

[Inaga]

One day it's I love you so much, you're my world. The next is I hate you, never speak to me again. Does anyone else experience this constant pushing away then pulling back in? What do you do in a "pushed away" moment--respect their wishes to have nothing to do with you, or attempt to let them know you're there?

 

[Ewuci]

I am soooooo not there. Someone tells me they hate me and want me gone? I'm gone.

That said, in the kinds of pushed away I tolerate just fine? It's flip a coin between whether they can get in touch with me after they unf*ck themselves, or I reach out. Totally depends on whatever I feel like in the moment. I don't overthink it, just do what feels right/natural. That way me being me & them being them works, or doesn't.

 

[Utasam]

I respect their wishes to leave them alone. You don't have to tell me but once to leave you alone.

 

[Ihe]

I think respect their wishes and give them their space. It may be what their going through and not about you. I know that doesn't make it easier, but being able to step back can enable them to work through what they need to work through faster. Sometimes people with ptsd can't handle any pressure and even a simple conversation or checkin can feel like pressure.

 

[Inaga]

What if they actually end things just days after telling you they love you more than anything in the world?

 

[Uromiz]

Idk I'm too messed up right now I can't think