The war

[KA60]

Please can anyone give me support in regard to the escalation of the war in the middle east? My fear is the same level as when I was hospitalized in May 2014. Very ill. Septic. I went into cardiopulmonary arrest. I have the same level of fear now as I did during my recovery from this illness. I had a lot of medical care trauma recovery treatment for domestic violence.

 

[Ecdysis]

If you're in an anxiety spiral, medication can be helpful to get re-regulated

Are you on any medication? Do you have as-needed meds like benzos?

Oh and turn off the news. All of it. Stop doom scrolling. You're making it so much worse with that.

 

[Sideways]

Oh and turn off the news. All of it. Stop doom scrolling. You're making it so much worse with that

100% this

 

[Movingforward10]

Please can anyone give me support in regard to the escalation of the war in the middle east? My fear is the same level as when I was hospitalized in May 2014. Very ill. Septic. I went into cardiopulmonary arrest. I have the same level of fear now as I did during my recovery from this illness. I had a lot of medical care trauma recovery treatment for domestic violence.

I got rid of my TV in the pandemic as I was obsessed and just watching the news, feeding my sense of helplessness and hopelessness.
Not watching the news and not having a TV has really really improved my state of mind.

What is it about the war that is triggering you?
Maybe there are things to explore how you hold them, that might help.

 

[KA60]

I was tapered off benzodiapine in 2018 under medical supervision. Never resumed. I take escitalopram 20mg daily. My spouse is a veteran who is hypervigilant. I have been setting hard boundaries about reacting to this with him and others. I am now severely limiting my media news intake. Husband believes this will end in a civil war. My serious illness caused me to go into cardiopulmonary arrest. I was resuscitated..the war the narcissism etc and other people's beliefs scare me. Because I was gone and brought back..I know the constant cycle of fear emergencies etc is bad. PTSD. Yet me saying no setting boundaries I am the problem. I will continue work on.me. I control only me my reactions actions etc and whether or not I expose myself to chaos. If I set limits with my husband he feels he is being attacked. No he will not get help for his ptsd. Denies he has issues. Thank you all. Very helpful.
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[No More]

Meh, no point worrying about the future. I’ll have to deal with it when it gets here, no point dealing with it twice.

 

[parrotthepolly]

Meh, no point worrying about the future. I’ll have to deal with it when it gets here, no point dealing with it twice.

Woah it's like you never heard of preparation and prevention.

 

[Ecdysis]

Try to stay on topic to help the thread starter with her concern!

General discussions are unlikely to be helpful...!

 

[Movingforward10]

I was tapered off benzodiapine in 2018 under medical supervision. Never resumed. I take escitalopram 20mg daily. My spouse is a veteran who is hypervigilant. I have been setting hard boundaries about reacting to this with him and others. I am now severely limiting my media news intake. Husband believes this will end in a civil war. My serious illness caused me to go into cardiopulmonary arrest. I was resuscitated..the war the narcissism etc and other people's beliefs scare me. Because I was gone and brought back..I know the constant cycle of fear emergencies etc is bad. PTSD. Yet me saying no setting boundaries I am the problem. I will continue work on.me. I control only me my reactions actions etc and whether or not I expose myself to chaos. If I set limits with my husband he feels he is being attacked. No he will not get help for his ptsd. Denies he has issues. Thank you all. Very helpful.
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It must be tough with him being a vet, and not being in a place to explore his PTSD. Sounds like the war is triggering for him too. And your push back on it is something he is struggling to accept.
That's difficult.

You're right: you can only control your responses.
Does he listen to you when you say hearing about the war is triggering for you and you need to limit it to remain well?
Keep putting in your boundaries.

 

[KA60]

It must be tough with him being a vet, and not being in a place to explore his PTSD. Sounds like the war is triggering for him too. And your push back on it is something he is struggling to accept.
That's difficult.

You're right: you can only control your responses.
Does he listen to you when you say hearing about the war is triggering for you and you need to limit it to remain well?
Keep putting in your boundaries.

No not to well. He seems to point out other things from the media that are not life affirming like trumps picture with a rash and asking me what my assessment was. I have tried a lot to tell him that what we give energy and focus on matters. That I and anyone else have the right to say no and decide exactly who and what gets access to us. I am a sinking ship trying to explain fight flight fear fawn and all the neurochemicals involved the effect of these states on our nervous system and how it affects critical thinking. I have tried to explain predatory AI algorhythms how they are being used to keep us angry in a constant state of crisis and chaos and that this is not normal. Get no where. No news for me. I will not discuss. I need to make firm repeated efforts to walk away from all discussions or say I choose not to discuss it.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I don’t like violence in any form. Even watching a movie I find myself grabbing the chair when there is violence. To me wars are the ultimate admission of failure of the political class. But for some reason this one isn’t bothering me.

 

[KA60]

I don't like violence either. Not in words actions movies etc..Thank you for your comment. May I ask why this war is not bothering you?