The war

[ms spock]

Please can anyone give me support in regard to the escalation of the war in the middle east?

I feel for you. It is hard given the escalation of the war in the middle east. From my point of view it is normal to feel anxiety at this time. I am worried as well.

Please ignore what is not useful.

Take regular breaks. I go and listen to 5 minutes and have a break. Or I look at insects and follow them in the garden. Or sit and watch them fly by.

If I forget to keep with taking a break. I do self compassion with myself (Kristin Neff) and restart taking a break either immediately or later on. Taking lots of short breaks. It is a new concept me. The ability to take continuous breaks during the day. It's a new thing for me. As a child I just had to keep continuing to endure.

I use ice packs on the back of my neck, regularly throughout the day. It too a long time for me to tolerate that. I took a cold shower today to ground myself.

Lying on my yoga matt taking tiny movements.

I can't hear the commentary in the background, so either the person turns it off and reads the subtitles or I put my ear plugs or headphones. Or if we aren't having an extreme weather events I can go outside.

I focus on the insects. Butterflies. Birds.

My fear is the same level as when I was hospitalized in May 2014. Very ill. Septic. I went into cardiopulmonary arrest. I have the same level of fear now as I did during my recovery from this illness.

Is there a smell that reminds you of today or the past that help ground you?

I imagine that having the same level of fear as when you were hopitalisted in May 2024 is most triggering. I don't know if this would work for you, but can you situate yourself in this time in 2026 and notice what is different from now to then. If you are too overwhelmed. Leave this for another day.

Having such a high level of anxiety right now is very challenging. I do feel for you.

I had a lot of medical care trauma recovery treatment for domestic violence.

I feel for you. Are you still recovering from this medical care trauma?

Please ignore anything that is not useful for you at this time.

I am listening to Deep Listening right now. I don't know if it would interest you. It is precious to me.

The wisdom of deep listening: Miriam Rose Ungunmerr-Baumann and Fleur Magick Dennis - ABC listen

Many Indigenous languages have a word that means something like ‘deep listening’. In Ngan'gikurunggurr, a Northern Territory language, that word is dadirri. We hear from renowned Aboriginal elder and Senior Australian of the Year, Dr Miriam Rose Ungunmerr-Baumann, who advocates for a kind of...

www.abc.net.au

 

[KA60]

I feel for you. It is hard given the escalation of the war in the middle east. From my point of view it is normal to feel anxiety at this time. I am worried as well.

Please ignore what is not useful.

Take regular breaks. I go and listen to 5 minutes and have a break. Or I look at insects and follow them in the garden. Or sit and watch them fly by.

If I forget to keep with taking a break. I do self compassion with myself (Kristin Neff) and restart taking a break either immediately or later on. Taking lots of short breaks. It is a new concept me. The ability to take continuous breaks during the day. It's a new thing for me. As a child I just had to keep continuing to endure.

I use ice packs on the back of my neck, regularly throughout the day. It too a long time for me to tolerate that. I took a cold shower today to ground myself.

Lying on my yoga matt taking tiny movements.

I can't hear the commentary in the background, so either the person turns it off and reads the subtitles or I put my ear plugs or headphones. Or if we aren't having an extreme weather events I can go outside.

I focus on the insects. Butterflies. Birds.


Is there a smell that reminds you of today or the past that help ground you?

I imagine that having the same level of fear as when you were hopitalisted in May 2024 is most triggering. I don't know if this would work for you, but can you situate yourself in this time in 2026 and notice what is different from now to then. If you are too overwhelmed. Leave this for another day.

Having such a high level of anxiety right now is very challenging. I do feel for you.


I feel for you. Are you still recovering from this medical care trauma?

Please ignore anything that is not useful for you at this time.

I am listening to Deep Listening right now. I don't know if it would interest you. It is precious to me.

The wisdom of deep listening: Miriam Rose Ungunmerr-Baumann and Fleur Magick Dennis - ABC listen

Many Indigenous languages have a word that means something like ‘deep listening’. In Ngan'gikurunggurr, a Northern Territory language, that word is dadirri. We hear from renowned Aboriginal elder and Senior Australian of the Year, Dr Miriam Rose Ungunmerr-Baumann, who advocates for a kind of...

www.abc.net.au

As far as the trauma from my medical issues may 2014. I have a seizure risk in remission. All this time. Take very low dose of lamotrigine ER. I need rest periodic breaks quiet. Lots of hydration. I had a lot of therapy trauma domestic violence treatment and medical visits. Not many doctor appts now. Just routine testing dental etc. I do not process or think like very many people now. I am not the problem because of this but I can be if I get in conversations no one needs to have aka polirics religion etc..lots of deep breathing. Walk outside. Have 2 ESas dogs. Remarried. Life totally different. I have to stop the news focus. Too toxic. Just keeps getting worse. Thank for you comment. I have similar skills as you. Began reading books.

 

[ms spock]

As far as the trauma from my medical issues may 2014. I have a seizure risk in remission. All this time. Take very low dose of lamotrigine ER. I need rest periodic breaks quiet. Lots of hydration. I had a lot of therapy trauma domestic violence treatment and medical visits. Not many doctor appts now. Just routine testing dental etc. I do not process or think like very many people now. I am not the problem because of this but I can be if I get in conversations no one needs to have aka polirics religion etc..lots of deep breathing. Walk outside. Have 2 ESas dogs. Remarried. Life totally different. I have to stop the news focus. Too toxic. Just keeps getting worse. Thank for you comment. I have similar skills as you. Began reading books.

You having long term seizure risk from your medical issues is tough. I am glad that you have the low dose of lamotrigine.

I seem not to process or think like other people either. I do the best that I can.

I have to keep out of conversations as well. That is a very useful insight that I kind of knew but hadn't articulated. No politics. No religion.

Lots of deep breathing. I often forget to breath.

Walks outside too.

What are ESas dogs?

Remarrying and a totally different life is proactive and brave.

No news is crucial. I go through patches. Recently stopped again.

Our skills do sound similar. To me it reads as you have a good handle of what you can and cannot handle. Better than me but I have learnt some things from your posts.

You are very welcome for my post. I am trying not to read too much on the forums to keep my self stable.

I really enjoy reading books and I need to get back into reading them. Great reminder.

 

[KA60]

You having long term seizure risk from your medical issues is tough. I am glad that you have the low dose of lamotrigine.

I seem not to process or think like other people either. I do the best that I can.

I have to keep out of conversations as well. That is a very useful insight that I kind of knew but hadn't articulated. No politics. No religion.

Lots of deep breathing. I often forget to breath.

Walks outside too.

What are ESas dogs?

Remarrying and a totally different life is proactive and brave.

No news is crucial. I go through patches. Recently stopped again.

Our skills do sound similar. To me it reads as you have a good handle of what you can and cannot handle. Better than me but I have learnt some things from your posts.

You are very welcome for my post. I am trying not to read too much on the forums to keep my self stable.

I really enjoy reading books and I need to get back into reading them. Great reminder.

I have 2 dogs that are pitbulls. They are my emotional support animals. I get a new updated letter yearly from my behavioral health care provider. They give me some legal rights under the ADA like no pet deposit no pet rent being able to rent in a no pets community. We own an RV so it really does not apply. If they were small dogs they go into a store with me. Not grocery stores. With the increased anger and intolerance in the US I would not push the rights ESAs give. They both are a comfort to me and contribute to me remaining seizure free. Have you had any therapy for trauma abuse coercion safe and unsafe people? I have plus domestic violence treatment.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I guess this war, if that is what it is, doesn’t bother me so much is I believe Iran earned it. I have no sympathy for the government of Iran. I just hope we don’t end up with something worse.

 

[KA60]

I guess this war, if that is what it is, doesn’t bother me so much is I believe Iran earned it. I have no sympathy for the government of Iran. I just hope we don’t end up with something worse.

OK. Thank you for letting me know. I like you hope we do not end up with far worse

 

[Freida]

so ya. I'm a vet and I have been making my husband crazy reading the news and then asking him what he thinks. And no matter how many times he has said "I don't want to talk about it" I'm just not hearing him.

I'm not intentionally trying to upset him. I think I truly forget when I'm reading or seeing something that he isn't my person to talk to about it. He's made it very clear that I need to find someone else for these discussions and I need to turn off the news. The bad thing is it's like that concept flies right out of my head once I've heard/see/found something

And nope - not making excuses for your hubby.
I have no idea how to fix my own mess, so no words o wisdom for his
But if he's like me it's not intentional - if that helps

I will say this thread has made me think about what I'm doing to hubby.
Maybe showing it to your guy would help?

 

[Rose White]

I believe Iran earned it

Iran or the Islamic Regime? Most Iranians are atheist and despise their government.

 

[KA60]

so ya. I'm a vet and I have been making my husband crazy reading the news and then asking him what he thinks. And no matter how many times he has said "I don't want to talk about it" I'm just not hearing him.

I'm not intentionally trying to upset him. I think I truly forget when I'm reading or seeing something that he isn't my person to talk to about it. He's made it very clear that I need to find someone else for these discussions and I need to turn off the news. The bad thing is it's like that concept flies right out of my head once I've heard/see/found something

And nope - not making excuses for your hubby.
I have no idea how to fix my own mess, so no words o wisdom for his
But if he's like me it's not intentional - if that helps

I will say this thread has made me think about what I'm doing to hubby.
Maybe showing it to your guy would help?

Thank you for your reply. I think my husband is starting to understand but only because I have set consequences. Recently. It came to a crisis. Now I clearly state no I will talk about it and or remove myself aka walk take a drive sit outside in our lawn chairs. To expect different behavior or outcome but still doing the same thing is illogical

 

[ms spock]

I have 2 dogs that are pitbulls. They are my emotional support animals. I get a new updated letter yearly from my behavioral health care provider. They give me some legal rights under the ADA like no pet deposit no pet rent being able to rent in a no pets community. We own an RV so it really does not apply. I

That is so cool. My friend A had a pitbull. I was this dog godmother and named in the will if my friend died. Unfortunately this dog is deceased now.

It is great that you have connection with your two pitbulls.

f they were small dogs they go into a store with me. Not grocery stores. With the increased anger and intolerance in the US I would not push the rights ESAs give.

That is wise strategically. You have a good way of thinking that through.

They both are a comfort to me and contribute to me remaining seizure free.

That's amazing that they are so helpful giving you comfort and contributing to you remaining seizure free.

Have you had any therapy for trauma abuse coercion safe and unsafe people? I have plus domestic violence treatment.

I have had a lot of therapy. I have only got a connection to myself rather recently. So it is hard to make progress and take things in when I was so dissociated and fragmented in some ways. I am starting to learn more about trauma abuse coercion and safe and unsafe people. I am learning slowly.

 

[KA60]

That is so cool. My friend A had a pitbull. I was this dog godmother and named in the will if my friend died. Unfortunately this dog is deceased now.

It is great that you have connection with your two pitbulls.

That is wise strategically. You have a good way of thinking that through.


That's amazing that they are so helpful giving you comfort and contributing to you remaining seizure free.

I have had a lot of therapy. I have only got a connection to myself rather recently. So it is hard to make progress and take things in when I was so dissociated and fragmented in some ways. I am starting to learn more about trauma abuse coercion and safe and unsafe people. I am learning slowly.

Thank you for all your kind comments..

 

[Lost in the Woods]

Iran or the Islamic Regime? Most Iranians are atheist and despise their government.

I have no problem with the Iranian people, But their government is so full of hate. Unfortunately the government will not care about the pain they cause their people. That said, I am not thrilled with my government either.