The whole attachment issue...

[Deleted member 42665]

If he's good at his job, and it sounds like he is, he'll know that. But, maybe you could tell him that...

An experiment that could go horribly wrong... and I'd really regret. I just can't get the courage to say anything yet. The risk is too much for me. I will have to ask him before I ever mention it, what would warrent him to change his behavior toward me or cut me off? Than I guess I'll know... we will also see how I feel Friday. It may not be a big enough deal to mention anymore

One other thing to keep in mind is that by the time you do leave? That won't be true, anymore. You'll ha...

Well then I'll be there for like 5yrs LOL... making friends takes time... especially with trust issues...

 

[Justmehere]

maybe but it just scares me he will change how he is with me or cut me off, and i can't deal with any of that right now.

I recognize this is hard. I've been there, heck I still end up there from time to time. Take it slow. Don't run, but also don't dive into the deep end. Like the example wih excerise, people who are training don't usually do well to start off training by running a marathon on day one. They also don't get stronger by quitting at the first sign of soreness. They take it slow and steady. Growing in connection can really help, especially when things are rough. When I'm connected to others, rough times are not as destabilizing for me.

That being said, if you need to step back from feeling attached that's ok, but I'd strongly encourage seeing it as a time of regrouping to focus on other distressing things. Not as a long term plan for healing or a sign something has gone wrong.

Does that make sense?