Therapist doesnt get flashbacks

[Iamsensative]

Well, i see my therapist tonight. What do i say when he says you think too much, you cant get pulled in. I am not making excuses about the flashback. I want to be able to bring them under control. No drama needed in my life, enough out there just living day to day. But sometimes they just happen, no thoughts, something triggers and i know its a trigger. Frustated and i adore my therapist, he has given me so much understanding and stability. But oh man, when i hear these words, i want to scream, i never would but that how i feel.

 

[Tinyflame]

I can only say, (for me) if it's a visual FB my eyes might be open but I'm seeing and 'living' something else, and I have no control over it.

I was just thinking about this though after a horrendous nightmare. With a FB I 'know' it's so- during it I remember the happening but have 'time' to feel , recognize, & acknowledge what I felt then (though I won't remember if I don't write it down).

I didn't know 'emotional FB's' existed until a few years ago- there I believe it's very difficult for me to do but necessary, to not get 'drawn in', because my mind will look for the evidence in the present of why I'm feeling that way. Fine if there's real basis to it, not good if it's triggered and the past. The difficulty for me is in discriminating the difference.

Similarly, I can't remember so many memories, so I'm very cautious in interpreting what I 'think', versus what I 'felt', unless I definitely remember.

Hope that makes sense. :confused:

:hug:

 

[Tinyflame]

Just came back to say @Iamsensative , it would be good to tell your T how you feel.

I can say with emotional flashbacks, even if I'm not drawing conclusions it affects me, and probably at least wise if possible to recognize it, name it, and stop there (don't make any huge decisions atm). You can still make them later, if you feel that's best.

Maybe that's what not being drawn in might mean? Because conversely not acknowledging them would be harmful.

 

[Deleted member 42121]

I think you should reply with "you're fired".

You think too much... worst quote from a therapist regarding flashbacks evar!

P.S. I would totally flip out... like FLIPZOUT. So, good for you! Lol! I need some of that calm u got!!

 

[Cleopatra]

Well, i see my therapist tonight. What do i say when he says you think too much, you cant get pull...

I think what your therapist said was crap. The whole point of flashbacks is that they are involuntary! If you could avoid them, you would! There are lots of good therapists out there...and I don't think he's one of them.

 

[Muttly]

I'd be doubting the therapist's skills. I'd ask what he meant and explain the impact and if that's not satisfactory I'd be looking for a new one if that's an option.

 

[Iamsensative]

Thank you all for your support. I decided to speak with him about it. As i discusses my flashback, i said you know i cant control this. He said of course you cant control it, it happens. But he said i obsess and analyze so much over things that i can put myself into a freefall. I become frozen over the thought of it happening again. He was trying to get me to not overly focus, control everything to avoid and then end up putting myself in a tailspin. We had a good laugh once he pointed this out, even said to me if i dont agree, lets discuss. But oh boy very guilty as charged:barefoot: