Therapists I Could Live Without

[crimsontears]

The one therapist that I have been to constantly tried to touch me--- I am terrified of being touched by people I know and love half the time, so being touched by a stranger was off the wall. She supposedly did EMDR, but I still dont know what that was supposed to do or how it was supposed to help. She also told me to put mu negative thought/ flashback etc. into a bubble and let them float away. Further, she told me not to talk to anyone but her about these things because non-professionals would make it worse. Really, she's the one that made it worse.

 

[heather q]

And Just How Big Is This Can of Worms?

I just got back from seeing my T, last week I'd asked him if he would read "The Body Remembers" by Babette Rothschild, he put me off and said we'd talk about it later. Today I wanted to know why he was avoiding the issue, I don't usually question him like that. Eventually the discussion went to him saying that I would be introducing a third person in the room and that's not how he works. I said, that's bullshit, I don't think it went down very well.

When I originally asked him to read the book, he told me I was doing too much, because I described how I felt, then that became an issue because he said that he didn't say that, well I don't remember exactly what he said but he was trying to narrow what I am doing for myself. Well, if I don't do what I'm doing, then how am I supposed to deal with myself.

My reasoning for asking him to read the book is that when I talk about things I get various pains in my body, so I'm reliving this bodily crap and I want to learn how to deal with it, this is what the book is about, it also describes how to deal with flashbacks and all sorts of other helpful information that appears to me to be what I need at this time. When I tell him I've got this pain again, he nods a yes and that's it. I want to investigate the pains or work with them or whatever is available. I told him when he does that I get the feeling that he's not listening, he repeated that back as well.

I feel controlled, I want to ask why isn't my life my own.

He is very clear that everything that I need to get through 'this' is within his expertise. Not the word he used, but it's close. I also added that I want to quit the Wednesday appointment. That was bad timing on my part, I should have waited till Friday to tell him.

I can't tell if he makes sense or whether it's an ego thing. I am not sure that I would want to be honest with him any more, I feel like I screwed up.

Crummy at work, questionable in therapy, absolutely awful on the bus, thank goodness for isolation at home, where I can be with me and think my own thoughts. :smile:

Heather

 

[tigress2420]

Hello. I just got rid of a bad therapist this past monday. I began noticing that everytime I left my sessions I was increasingly more irritated the last 2 times I was there. The only advice she had for me was to take vitamins and do yoga. For real? I'm paying you $150 to tell me to take vitamins and do yoga?? I could have figured that out on my own! She gave me no coping strategies and tried emdr therapy on me even though I've had multiple traumas. She tried telling me that this forum was crap. I feel like she gave up on trying to help me. :( Little does she know that I won't be returning. I have marriage counseling today and I'm hoping that my marriage counselor has come up with someone else for me to see. He seems like he's a straight forward decent person so I hope he comes up with someone good for me to see. Wish me luck!

 

[Manic11]

Good luck, Tigress!
Keep us updated, hun.

Manic

 

[TLight]

I had a woman who did the same thing Tigress! I was living with someone who was triggering me, working for a boss who was triggering me, and under extreme stress............after a suicide attempt she told me to do yoga too! She also managed my meds, refused to give me a tranquilizer when I needed it, and took me off of Cymbalta cold turkey after 8 years!

I actually hated her and started having revenge fantasies.............

Some people just get degrees and have no idea what they are doing........some do damage (I know this woman did). I wonder if they even read any of the brain imaging studies? Yoga isn't going to help when your amygdala hijacks your pre-frontal cortex and sends stress chemicals into your body! Come on!

 

[SunnyBrookFarm]

Tigress -

First - Welcome!!! Yeah - they must have all gone to the same school - I had a therapist once who said I could fix all my problems - by just spending more time for myself. While yes, I needed to spend more time for myself - I never believed that would fix all my problems - and then each appt. she would fuss at me because I hadn't spent my alloted amount of time each day - yeah - I stuck with that one far too long. Good for you for finding someone else - I have a wonderful therapist now - and she has actual concrete suggestions and tools - (not yoga or vitamins).

 

[Keenbean]

Louisa....

Also, I'm scared that if I tell my Doctor how I really feel, I might get sectioned under the mental health act and I certainly don't want that. Does anyone have any advice?

Thankyou, Louisa

Hey there Louisa,

Really hope you're feeling a bit better by now. I'm in the UK too but am a PhD student so have been able to see a university psychotherapist once or twice a week for 6 years now. It is thanks to her that I am still on the planet, and I am grateful that I do not have to rely on the NHS for therapy, where I would probably have been entitled to about 10 sessions or something ridiculous like that.

Anyway, I was going to suggest that you be a bit careful about what to say to your doctor. I have been sectioned a number of times and being stuck in a mental hospital (although necessary to prevent me from taking my life at times) has in general only worsened my condition and added to my trauma. However you are unlikely to be sectioned if you say you are feeling suicidal in general- much more likely if you tell them you actually have a plan to do it (complete with method and timescale). It can be a fine balance, but they won't section you if you are capable of stopping yourself from hurting yourself, unless your behaviour is telling them something very different. I hope your trip to the doctor went well and that you have sorted out some more support.

Best wishes and lots of hugs,
KB

 

[Ursa]

My ex T told me to walk... LOL

 

[hapa_gurl87]

I am so glad who ever posts this thread should be a super hero because you made my day. I ****ing hate my x -therapist who ruined my life she's an evil bitch and she should go to hell that evil ****ing bitch from hell I hate her hate her hate her hate her very very much. I went to her to get help to find an attorney to seek justice which i was very excited about then she gives me some loopy idea that justice wasn't a good idea that closure is so much better yeah closure is what you get when you experience justice not the other way around i cant get closure without justice. WEll like most therapist who are brain washer and manipulate there patients to believe any thing they say or do anything they say the so called"authority" because they think the therapist will help them. I had a horrible experience with this one. SHe told me to go back to my trauma and talk to the people who caused my trauma and share my trauma story with the people who didn't do shit for me when the trauma was happening and could care less about me. How could i say no when she set everything up called the people scheduled an appointment for a meeting with these people who i barely knew which meant why be vulnerable and share my deepest secrets. this is hard to talk about but i'm so hurt i'm so ****ing hurt and i know that if it wasn't for my therapist i would not be experiencing what i am experiencing now. Its horrible and she hasn't done shitt for me since then given me some compensation for her malpractice. except tell me she's sorry and that if i wanted to stay with her i could and that she could help me. yeah me pay her right like i owe her anything on top of that she's the one who caused my trauma all over again so i'm literally traumatized by her and her saying she could help me made me want to hit her so hard that she would wake up and see she's crazy to think she could help me after she harmed me. People don't go to therapists to be retraumatized they go to therapists to have the help to get out of there traumas. I've learned that a lot of therapists have a lot of crap of there own they like to throw on their patients in an unconscious way like transference. Well im off to do other things hopefully this trauma wil pass that i can move on with my life again other wise i will hold this grudge for the rest of my life which i dont want no one wants to hate on others it sucks!!!!!!!!

 

[gdf]

Some Strange People Go Into this Business...

Hi All,

I laughed my way through this as I read especially thinking what I've been through lately with this last therapist. You know you're either a) boring or a) totally unimportant when the guy takes his third phone call and says I need to take this outside and leaves the room with his cell in hand. His secretary used to call him to tell him he had a call going to voice mail. That interuption cost me $3.07 at $184 bucks an hour.:crazy:

Before, I had a woman who insisted I pick a scent for a candle and then started each session by lighting the candle and then ending by making me blow it out. Nice symbolism but...hummmmm.:wall:

My all time favorite was the time my nurse practitioner listened impatiently after asking me why I was upset so I told her I was thinking about changing therapists. She said she knew a woman she could recommend who dealt with past life regression. Ok, I'm always open to new ideas but I got enough problems with my current life.:poke:

And the strangeness continues.

Gina

 

[hapa_gurl87]

Hi Gina,

lol Thanks for replying your awesome. Its crazy therapist shouldnt even have to be licensed since all they do all day is sit and listen and give some boring feed back or reflection on your situation. "Like I havn't heard that advice before", My therapist i have right now talks about her ptsd that she has and i feel bad for her but i feel like half of the time who's doing the therapy whose the patient? I mean unless your gonna tell me something really important that i dont already know then please do me the honors but other wise just go away. Theyve made my insurance skyrocket theyve taken thousands of dollars from me and yet im still suffering and i havnt suffered this much in quite a long while so im pissed and i wont stop being pissed. I could do a whole lot better job than they have ever done for me . its ridiculouse. I need helpe not my whole piggy bank sabotaged and demolished!!
Lol did it ever occur to you that another way to look at the word therapist is to break the word apart and youll understand what therapist really are "the rapist" lol they take your money and your sanity!!!!!

Good luck Gina I hope it works out for you Im still trying to figure it all out can any one help me please!!!!

Hapa gurl

 

[Grainne]

LOL! This thread is hilarious...sad, but hilarious! (Sad because I started adding up all the hours of wasted therapy dollars here...dear me, don't do that if you can stop yourself!)

The very first time I attempted therapy I was taken into the office of a lovely woman who was caring and kind. She made me a cup of tea before we began, which was delicious. Her office was serene, tons of books on the shelves, very comfy chairs to sit in. She asked me to introduce myself, and I did. I gave her a very vague rundown of how I was feeling which took me all of..ummm...3 minutes. The next 57 minutes were spent with her talking, constantly talking, about her ADD and how hard it was for her to focus. I swear this woman barely took a breath!! I tried to interject; to switch the topic back to the reason I had come, but she just kept talking.

When she handed me the bill at the end of the session I just about fell over. I did manage to say "you're lucky I'm not charging YOU" before I walked out, never to return.