Therapy-Bad Things, But Positive Experience

[reallynow]

I've been really struggling as I'm sure most if not all people on this board have been too, with staying positive. I believe that staying positive and determined to reach your goals will get you absolutely ANYWHERE and ANYTHING in life. I dont think there are limits.

Therapy was confusing in this way to me. It makes me feel very bad because of course I'm bringing these things in. I can't be positive about that area yet, it takes time. Still I concluded that in order to reach my goal of being positive, I need to work through the things in my way that are making me unhappy. Therefore therapy too, is a positive experience. I'm not going to feel bad anymore ABOUT why I feel bad doing things in therapy. This is just another positive experience that has been given to me and its a gift, because once I'm through with it I can really reach my whole potential.

I've noticed that whenever I needed something, or whenever I desperately wanted something and I focused on that, it magically comes into my life, or I see opportunities. Therapy is one of those things. I needed and wanted help so badly and I can't describe how lucky I got.

There is one more thing which I'm scared of putting on this board because it might be sensitive to some people. This is just my opinion. If we attract the good, then we also attract the bad. I don't mean we must have wanted it, but because we are so down, understandably and have all these negative emotions overflowing, various bad things start happening. For me bad things just pop up everywhere when I'm going through the roughest time. I guess thats one more reason why dealing with the issues so that they won't continue to get you down is so important.

Then things will fall into place. And Yes, I do mean as if by magic. But usually its a long process and hard to really achieve this 100%.

Anyway, This has helped me so I wanted to share it, even though I worry if some people might get offended, because it is difficult to understand.

thanks! xxxx

 

[curiouser]

I think it's commendable that you're trying to find the positive with facing everything in therapy and I hope you continue making progress. What you're describing, some people refer to as "The Law of Attraction", it's a concept that has been around for a very long time. The idea that we attract what we focus and think about most in life.

Something that helps me stay positive when the road gets bumpy is keeping a gratitude journal. Every night I write out a list of things I'm grateful for from that day, it can be small and insignificant like I got a good parking spot, to larger good things like I got a new job making more money. I started with trying for 5 things every night, and then just increased it slowly to 15 or 20. It helps me to focus and recognize the good things that are happening in my life, specially if I'm having a bad week and it's hard to find the silver lining.

 

[reallynow]

Thanks so much for your reply, yes and its very true. I don't think its always exactly what we think about we are attracting but also how we think. Obviously a victim of a traumatic event didn't necessarily think that was going to happen. Of course in those cases we as people didn't attract or ask for it. In some situations negative thinking will lead to further negative events though. I could talk about this for 5 pages straight, but still a victim is a victim.

I'm really trying to change my thinking back to positive, I'm not even CLOSE yet but it starts slowly. I really really like what you said about writing down every single day the 5 things you are grateful for, I am now going to do this too. I already am keeping a journal of positive things like great quotes or stories, and made lists of things I want. In this journal I swore to never write anything about my trauma or negative things. Now that you said the thing about writing the things you are grateful for I am going to try and do this every day as well. Great idea, and I'm going to look more into this law of attraction.

Thanks so much!