Therapy Issues - Relationship To Depression

[fyredrift23]

Hi Hashi,

I'm not sure if you're still looking for advice, but I wanted to say I'm sorry about what has happened to you :(

I've been struggling with my Depression recently, too, and I understand about how hard and confusing it can be to know what's really going on inside your head. The back-and-forth questioning yourself and wondering and doubting can make you feel crazy! I agree with the other posters wholeheartedly, though. I encourage you to trust yourself; the self that speaks before all the questions and doubts come.

Being where I am now, emotionally and otherwise, I personally wouldn't be able to take a therapist who couldn't be sensitive enough to my needs to be able to be more conscientious and thoughtful before speaking. Depression and low feelings aside, I need a T who can work really really hard at watching what he/she says. I know that may seem a little unrealistic, but my current T has handled this really well. I know he tries (too) hard to be aware of me and my needs, and if he wasn't, I seriously don't know if I could keep seeing him. I would for sure need a break, at least.

I hope that whatever you choose to do that it leaves you feeling comfort in your decision. :)

 

[ms spock]

My previous trauma therapist--EMDR--actually took advantage of me at my lowest point, and promoted a sexual relationship which she then used to essentially emotionally strong-arm me into moving into her home with her, and beginning wedding plans...all this during a period when I could hardly put my pants on straight, much less access any critical thinking skills. And yes, I'm male. Unusual, I know. But it does happen. After getting to truly know her, and meeting her other therapist friends....I've become deeply mistrustful of therapists, in general.

Not surprising. I have had similar, unfortunate experiences.

And in a war, you've got to be determined, and not get tripped up when trying to stumble across obstacles standing in your way. I now view potentially negative reactions by therapists as opportunities to learn resilience, and not allowing others to 'steal my joy' whoever it might be.

That is a good way to look at it. Developing resilience.

 

[Matthew Barret]

Thanks for sharing