Things My Boyfriends Friends & Family Say To Him About Me...

[bailz]

While all that is extremely difficult to read..I want you to think differently when you read them. What did your boyfriend say in response to all that? He obviously loves you and I'm sure he told some people off in your defense. If I were in your shoes I would be hurt, but mostly I would be scared. What if he decided to listen to all them? That is what would make me worry. He is a great man and you are obviously a great woman for him to be able to overlook that "necessary" part of the relationship.

He's stuck between a rock and a hard place. He wants and needs to be here for you..and then he has his friends and family advising differently.

I think you need to sit down and talk to him. Confess that you've read all of this and why you did and how you feel about it. And let him once again support and talk you through this. He is a great man and I hope you someday get the chance to learn to trust him on a deeper level. And if you can't, then I hope he understands that and may he remain caring and faithful like he is now.

 

[Lisa]

Hello Jazzy.

I am also somebody who feels very much like you do. I am in a sexless relationship. It started off somewhere and has gradually ended up nowhere on the sexual intimacy front. For me, I feel incredibly insecure in my relationship for it. I'm terrified of sex, and I'm terrified of losing him because of that. I tell my partner that I want to, and will get there... but actually, I am going through a point in my life where I am full of self doubt. (To add to matters, I am broody!)

But... my therapist often tells me that even if it never happens, it is worth trying for.

Don't box yourself in.

It is worth trying for. Even if it never happens. You can feel the way that you feel (ie. not fixable), and still keep trying and holding open that door. Because you don't know. You might surprise yourself. You feel how you feel, and that is okay. But if you accept the feeling that you can't be fixed, then you will believe it and... You just boxed yourself in.

Who made you a fortune teller?

Don't do it. You don't deserve it. You deserve to have the chance to define yourself as you want to.