Things That Are Helping Anxiety

[Deleted member 12723]

I am glad you have things to help out with the anxiety. The granddaughters always bring so much life into our home. It is wonderful. I make a better grandmother than a mother. I wish I could re do the raising of my daughter, knowing what I know now. But that is not going to happen. Take care.

 

[OMNICELL]

I use many release angles for anxiety; first, I have the understanding that I am a big anxiety looking for relief. Looking back at my life, Iv'e noticed that Iv'e participated in events and actions that express. Im always naturally wanting to express for relief.

Things I use for anxiety relief:

1. clay: squeeze it or turn it into a baseball and play with it.
2. Riding that bicycle generates both sides of the body to activate; balance is practiced as well as Rhythm peddling. Exercise is always a good thing if the PTSD can stand the triggering. Also, I might get close to people, I don't engage them, I peddle away.
3. Writing with left and right hands.
4. hip hop dancing to music; put the headphones on and get moving
5. Playing drums; This is a great way to release tension.
6. Yelling> find a friend and an empty field and let it out. Singing is also good.
7. Swimming

 

[Phoenix Under]

Hey guys,
Our grandson is in the hospital! He has cellulitis. For those that pray Please pray for him. We took him to ER last night and they sent us home and when he woke up, today he was much worse so we went back and they admitted him. Well, anxiety is very high right now.

 

[Chincho]

For those that pray Please pray for him.

I've added him to my prayers.

 

[Phoenix Under]

Praise God! He responded really well to the IV antibiotics and is out of the hospital. I am so relieved. Thanks for your prayers, I know they worked.

 

[Phoenix Under]

We are back from vacation and I have been tired. Hope all of you are well. Vacation was bittersweet. I will write more, later.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Welcome home Phoenix. I hope you had a good time. Hugs.

 

[Phoenix Under]

Thanks Gizmo,
It was a bittersweet time. There was quite a bit of drama but my hubby and I had fun, anyway! Hugs to you, dear.

 

[Phoenix Under]

My Grandson turned 12 on the 7th. He is so depressed. He is withdrawn and cries. He admits he is sad but won't talk about it. I think it is because my daughter, his mother, abandoned him about this time last year. We helped his father get full custody of him because our daughter lives with a drug addict that abuses her and the children. He choked his own son when he was only 2 in front of our oldest grandson. My grandson testified to child protection and the judge, thanks to the lawyers, threw out the case, even though the boyfriend tested postive for crack. My daughter was very pregnant at the time. She no longer speaks to us nor are we allowed to see the children. Thank God, we got the oldest one out, though. It has been a very hard year and I miss my youngest grandson terribly. I was his day care and when child protection removed him from the home I was who they placed him with. I have never seen the newest baby.

The only way I have found to cope with all of this is to realize that my daughter is an adult and she makes her own decisions. We have tried to help her, having her hospitalized many times and going through years of therapy, when she was younger. We took the hard road trying to help her children but it just didn't work that well, so far. It has taken a year for me to be able to really get that I did everything in my power to help. She is the one that made bad decisions over and over again. It is out of my hands.

My path forward is to help my oldest grandson as much as I can and to continue to live and be OK. It is getting easier but is still very hard. I also reject guilt for all of this when it tries to come upon me. When I want to have negative feelings about her and her boyfriend I send them a big ball of loving light from God and release what is not mine to carry. I have also done this with my parents and sisters. Along with therapy once a week for over a year and weekly massages for the last few months this has really helped me to feel better. I can't say how I will feel tomorrow and that is not mine to worry with, today holds enough for me to be concerned with.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

There is nothing more heartbreaking than our adult children making bad choices. Especially when there are small children involved. You seem to have your heart and your hands full. It sounds like you have done alot of hard work on yourself and have a real positive attitude towards life in general. I hope you get some good rest from your vacation. My heart goes out to you and your family. Hugs:)

 

[Phoenix Under]

Gizmo,
Thanks for the support, as always. I know, you know, what it is like to have a tormented adult child. I had my grandson paint a picture of what is going on in his life, today. It was full of circular shapes and he outlined them in different colors to symbolize different things going on in his life like anger, sadness, happiness, fun, family and himself. I think it helped as we talked about the colors and what they ment as he thoughtfully placed them. He said that he was most concerned with seeing his brother and sister. He dosen't even know his sisters name and told me that he wanted his mom to tell him what it was. He does not know that his mother is back in town as she left to avoid court by placing hersellf in a domestic violence shelter that moved her out of state. She is back with the abuser and in town and he dosen't know. It is just so sad.

There was lots of drama on vacation but my hubby and I had fun. All of the drama was stressful, because the source of the drama has all of these medical issues that do not exhist. She dosen't realize that I am very knowledgeable in that area. If I say anything about it, it makes me look like a heel. It is sort of amusing to sit back and watch, though. The people we went with buy her story hook, line and sinker. One of them asked me if I thought she was really ill as they had doubts and I told them her tale did not stack up medically. We decided that we would ride together in my car and when we arrived at their house to leave she told me that she was riding with the other lady. I had to drive the whole way by myself as the guys rode bikes. If we would have known we could have trailered my hubby's bike and driven together. I was very uncomfortable and felt blindsided but I made up my mind that I would enjoy myself anyway. It will be very amusing to see how all of this plays out. I am going to keep myself at a healthy distance and just watch.