General Things To Know When Dealing With PTSD (As a Carer)

[Rocket_fff]

Wow.....powerful words MsPositive that I need to hear right now.

You guys are amazing and just the support I need right now. I am currently in a relationship with a PTSD sufferer and am experiencing my first "episode". I am having a really hard time right now to not call him or text all the time and really miss "him", the person I know he is. He is trying to protect me I know and coming here is giving me the tools I need to get through this.

Thank you so much to the supporters of the "carers".

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[MsPositive40]

Thank you Rocket_fff I think as long as we take care of ourselves to in this long Journey, we the carers will be okay!
I am not even with my BF at this moment as he broke up with me 2 weeks ago, but I can tell you this much I will not give up on US, I Adore this man and he is worth everything!!!!

 

[Rocket_fff]

So sorry to hear this MsPositive.

I really hope that J and I can get through this, it sure isn't going to be easy I know that and on top of this we are an hour and a half apart which is probably for the best right now as he deals with this but, gosh I miss him more than ever right now.

I know the right thing to do is just give him the time he needs right now and just hope and pray that he can "come back". He is contacting me about once a day so at least I know he is doing OK.

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[MsPositive40]

Thanks, wow we are almost going through the same feelings, D lives about 50 minutes away from me, and I think this is for the best right now too, but I miss him Dearly...I hope and pray he comes back too!

Just remember Hope does not take away our problems, It can lift us above them!

 

[Rocket_fff]

Have you been together long? We have only been together for 4 1/2 months but, being this distance apart and not being able to jump in the car whenever I want to see him is so hard. We talked so much on the phone, like every night for 3-4 hours. I thought we had built up something so strong that nothing could get in the way but, wow.....square one in a matter of a couple of days it seems.

I know he loves me and I know he hates to see me go through this as he has said that to me, "I hate to watch what this is doing to you" and this is in the middle of this current episode so I know he cares but, just can't really show it like he normally does.

I hate to see what this is doing to him, he is such an amazing person with a huge heart and always puts everyone first. I am so scared that next he is going to lose his job and that would be so tramatic for him.

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[MsPositive40]

We would have been together for 8 months now on October 19. We also talked every single night for about 4,5, sometimes even 6 hours straight.

I am dieing to text him right now just to tell him that I love him, but being that we just talked yesterday for 3 hours, since 2 weeks without speaking I don't wanna push it! So I have to stay strong and keep myself busy! Temptation is strong, But I know that I am Stronger!

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[Rocket_fff]

Wow, I am not alone!!!

Last time we talked is Tuesday night on the phone. I have texted him a few times and emailed and he has responded to some emails to me and I don't wanna push it anymore either. Tonight is the first night I have not texted or tried to call. I know he needs this time right now or he knows my number, he would call or text.

I am having a really hard time tonight though I know it's best. It's my birthday on Sunday and he was suppossed to come down for supper at my parents but, again, he knows this so not going to push it.

I have faith he will come around and he took a step today in going to the base hospital to seek more help so I know this is bad but, he is looking for help so all I can do is wait it out. I am also concerned that when this episode was starting I was more selfish than anything, not knowing it was happening and just wanting him to keep wanting to see me, wanting to be intimate and not truly listening, I have learned from this now and WHEN he does come back around I will know this mistake and listen to him more.

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[MsPositive40]

Its amazing I feel like if im reading something that I wrote!!!! We really are not alone! I have done my share of mistakes myself, as I was ignorant about PTSD... I know so much more now, but I hope it is not to late :cry:

I think the best thing we can do is just give them there space, they know our number, email etc...
for the mean time we can just keep writing to each other, I dont know about you but it really does make me feel better :)

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[Rocket_fff]

I think the best thing we can do is just give them there space, they know our number, email etc...
for the mean time we can just keep writing to each other, I dont know about you but it really does make me feel better :)

This is exactly it. He has my number and my email so when he is ready I am sure he will contact me. And absolutely, to talk to someone in a very similar situation is reassuring for sure. I did not understand this disorder at all apparently before this forum and now I am so happy I found this, if nothing else this will keep me from going insane waiting to hear from him. :p

 

[MsPositive40]

Thats exactly how I feel, Im glad I found a cyber friend ;)

 

[Rocket_fff]

me too :)

 

[Nicolette]

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