Tired Of Crying & No One Caring Or Understanding

[mamachick]

Glad you have appointment tomorrow. Hope your sleep is better tonight

 

[TigerPride]

Have you approached your manager to ask for such counselling from a professional that the bank can send you to at their expense, as it is a work related matter?

No, while I have been in banking over 12 years, I have only been with this one 6 months. So I don't want cause any problems by asking for help, especially since no one else is asking. Were a small bank, so not many staff & the fear of looking weak by asking for help is out weighing the need for help.

 

[mamachick]

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. I know this is hard for many of us to get but knowing what we need and going after it is a real strength. You did not cause this problem, it is something outside of your control. Regardless of it being a small bank and even if it were your first day on the job, there was a gunman that you were faced with. That would be enough to cause most of us to need help.

 

[Blondie362]

I was mugged at gunpoint when I lived in the USA, this guy jumped from behind as I was going into my house and he cocked a magnum under my face and robbed me, I think I was was in total shock because it had happened so quickly, however the consequences of that mugging didn't rear its head until years later- I hate people standing behind me, I want to hit the deck when a loud back goes off, so a back firing car or fireworks are a nightmare.

You have been through a horrendous ordeal and you are a person that needs to get some professional help so you can make sense of it all- that one incident in my life was left too long without being addressed, and I can't tell you how many people who approached me from behind & making me jump ended up getting punched by me , as I went into survival mode.
Even now standing at an ATM and anyone comes too close to me from behind, I have to tell them to back off... get help now hun, you are a human being not a crime statistic.

 

[PerfectlyFlawed]

Sometimes people do not understand PTSD. they just link it to combat vets. When so many other trauma victims can become overwhelmed with PTSD

 

[TigerPride]

You are right PerfectlyFlawed...I didn't really use to understand it either, thought it was only something people in the War or First Responders delt with, because that's what gets the most "media spotlight", which makes it more difficult for the average person to reach out & ask for help.

 

[PerfectlyFlawed]

Yes, you are right. Also, I must add, the majority of people do not want to hear about 'bad stuff' or 'traumatic things' In thier minds, bad stuff only happens to other people. Most live in a bubble. Naive thinking (that will NEVER happen to me) Then they turn around and judge us.