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Candleflames I chose not to disclose.
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Solara I'm not in denial, I completed a post-graduate degree in Human Resources and part of that is knowing the ins and outs of employment law in Canada. So I know they cannot deny me a job because of any disability or mental health issue. True if denied the employer would never say it was for mental health reasons (if that was the only reason), but if a complaint was filed by any applicant who disclosed that then the labour board will take legal action against the employer if there is no reasonable reason for the applicant to have not received the job other than mental health reasons.
I was asking for opinions and reasoning behind disclosing and not disclosing seeing as it has never been this bad before when starting a new job. Considering my current employer said I should look for other opportunities because my personal life/problems are effecting my work it was a reasonable question to have. As you can see others were able to portray their opinions on the topic in a polite and courteous manner. I'm never said you were wrong for being honest, I said that there is a less judgemental and harsh way of going about it. Like Jugsaw said, there is no tone or body language through written words. That is why we need to read and reread what we are posting so that it isn't misinterpreted or hurtful towards others. It's ok to provide honest opinions, it's ok to provide constructive criticism. But watch your wording, think about how it can come across to others.
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Solara we can't constantly compare our situations to everyone else's. Of course there are people in the world in worse conditions than we are, but that doesn't mean that my condition or your condition matter any less. I numb out of my entire life right now because it hurts too much to feel it. I'm walking around with cuts, bruises, and broken bones and no one knows except my T and people here. I have NO support system aside from my T, why? Because no one in my family wants to know about this other family member continually raping me and beating me. I've been walking around on a broken foot for weeks because I have no other choice. And as disgusting as you may think I am, I don't take pain meds for it because I NEED the pain to keep me from feeling the emotional pain I'm in. I tried to kill myself by overdosing on medication I'm extremely allergic to because I can't handle it anymore. So for ME this is the worst I've ever been, where I can't even stand to be present in my life the majority of the time I walk outside my apartment because that means I have to think about where HE is, and if he is watching me or going to hurt me again.
Yes you hit a sore spot! Why? Because I'm tired of people minimizing the crap storm I'm going through and that is what you have done. I don't need that in my life anymore, especially from someone who thinks it is their right to say that from behind the safety of a computer screen. Honesty is fine, but causing hurt and minimizing someones situation is not under any circumstance. You don't have all the facts, you aren't walking through this with me, you have no idea. Please think twice before making comments like that to anyone else on here. Some people will just silently read that, not say anything, and sink further into solitude because someone thought it was their right to be honest and minimize their personal crap storm.
